Settling?

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Settling?
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Sun, 01-16-2011 - 6:41pm

So I have been dating this guy for 8 months.

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In reply to: k_oliver00
Mon, 01-17-2011 - 6:46am

While it might not work out with the baseball player, it sounds like you aren't ready to settle down with the messy man. It's only been four days, so I wouldn't necessarily write off baseball man.

However, if you feel like you are truly settling then I say don't do it. I went out with a guy a couple of years ago that was just crazy about me. I wanted to want him, but I found when we were out, I was literally looking around at other men thinking, "I want to be with that guy." That's just not fair to him, and we didn't date long. If you read Lori Gottlieb's book, she doesn't advocate "settling" either. She feels that you should consider men you might not have considered before because you might actually fall in love with him.

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In reply to: k_oliver00
Mon, 01-17-2011 - 10:27am

I think the bigger problems are actually that he jumps at what his ex wants & his children drive you crazy.

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In reply to: k_oliver00
Fri, 02-04-2011 - 10:47pm

8 months is exactly the amount of time it took for me to feel I knew my ex b/f fairly well, and the newness started to wear off.

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Registered: 12-27-2008
In reply to: k_oliver00
Sat, 02-05-2011 - 4:21pm
There's settling and then there's settling and then there's the possibility that you just don't want
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Registered: 12-27-2008
In reply to: k_oliver00
Sat, 02-05-2011 - 4:29pm

Oh, I totally relate to the friend issue.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: k_oliver00
Mon, 02-07-2011 - 11:08am

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Registered: 04-22-2009
In reply to: k_oliver00
Wed, 02-09-2011 - 3:48pm

So here I am, still seeing the guy but much less.

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Registered: 04-17-2008
In reply to: k_oliver00
Fri, 02-11-2011 - 12:57pm

I, personally, could not put up with that kind of situation. But everyone has different tolerances.