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Should I be concerned?
| Sun, 10-26-2008 - 6:59pm |
I need some advice on what to do with a situation I’m in right now. I started seeing someone about a month and a half ago. We had known each other through French Club for about a year before we started dating. There was an obvious attraction between us from the get go but the timing was not right as he was going through a divorce and I was just processing mine.

I can understand your concerns, your fears and everything. I would be more worried that something has happened, he is ill, problems with the flight or something than I would be that he has for some odd reason just decided not to contact you.
Do you have any mutual friends that you can contact to make sure he is okay? Do you know where he is staying? Does he have myspace or facebook where you can look and see if he has logged on in the past few days? Have you tried calling his cell phone?
I hope that you hear from him and that he is okay. Let us know what you find out.
Thanks so much for your advice. I don't know what to do at this point. He did finally contact me in the beginning of last week via email and then we spoke twice after that over Skype and everything seemed fine and I felt much better but then he has mysteriously disappeared again and I don't know what to do. The last time I talked to him was last Tuesday, exactly 6 days ago.
Since we spoke over the phone, I have sent him a total of 5 emails - the last two practically pleas to please contact me and just let me know that everything is okay but still nothing. It's so weird because he lugged his computer all the way to Italy with him since he has to have some connection with his work back home. The thing that makes me very sad is that I just traveled halfway across the globe to Southeast Asia and I had hoped that he would have, at least, sent me an email or try to contact me to make sure I got to Singapore okay. I mean even my exboyfriend (were friends now) sent me an email and asked me how I was doing but nothing from the man who supposedly loves me. I feel so helpless, so powerless, so confused, so sad...I don't know what to do. I'm getting very worried. I had thought about calling his cell phone back in the States (his secretary is answering all of his calls) to see if she had heard anything and to make sure he's okay but is this crossing the line? I mean will that freak him out? I am genuinely worried about his welfare now.
PLEASE HELP! Any advice?? I feel so sick to my stomach. I can't eat. I can't sleep. And most of my stuff is at his place back in Santa Fe as we were already living together before I left. That would just be so weird if he's decided to end it (he's the one that was really persuing me) with all of my things there. Strange.
What would you do if you were in my position?