Should I be worried ?

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Registered: 07-27-2006
Should I be worried ?
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Wed, 10-28-2009 - 5:50pm
So I've been dating this guy for about 6 months now. I've recently found stuff of an ex's at his house - sappy card, revealing shirt, underwear. It was in a box in his closet in the bedroom. I wasn't snooping just getting out Halloween decorations. She's come up in the past, it was his only other serious relationship which ended about 2 yrs ago. I'm wondering if my jealousy is warranted or if I'm upset for nothing. I know they still talk and he says they are just friends but when I asked him the last time I found something of hers, in the room of stuff still packed from his move he got really defensive. Any thoughts ? I guess I'm worried that he might still have feelings for her. She broke up with him.
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Registered: 08-14-2007
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 5:36am
He could possibly have feelings for her, but as long as he isn't trying to act on it i'd say it's not too big a deal. Sometimes we will always have feeling for a certain person but it doesn't mean we're not over them. I'd say give him the benefit of the doubt until he gives you a reason not to. I have a box from one of my exes and am also friends with a few of my exes, it doesn't mean i want to get back with any of them.
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Registered: 07-27-2006
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 1:18pm
Thanks. I don't think he is acting on it but I'm not sure if he wouldn't if he got the chance. I know part of it is me being insecure because of past relationships which have involved lying, cheating. And he has assured me that he only sees her as a friend. UGH! I hate dating = (