Should I message him FIRST again?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2009
Should I message him FIRST again?
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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 2:13am
Last week I emailed this guy that I've been a few dates on, asking him about the address of the guitar store he was telling me about before b/c i needed to go there. he answered quickly and then he asked me out again, asking me if i wanted to go play tennis w/ him during the day. I said I couldn't b/c I had work but I asked him if he was free later during the day. He said he was pretty sure he was free so the next day we made plans to meet at the beach, but the plans weren't ever really finalized. Half an hour before we were supposed to meet, he called asking if I wanted to meet him at a DIFFERENT beach, and he said: "I invited all my friends out and don't want to abandon them here. Do you want to come out to West Beach and meet my friends here?" I said I couldn't b/c I was too tired to bus all the way there (it's about an hour drive from where I had finished work and I needed to get back to my home early that night).

Now my question is: Would it seem desperate/needy if I messaged him first AGAIN asking him if he is free some other time this week? Technically I had to decline 2 of his invitations but he did cancel on me last minute, so I'm not sure where we stand in terms of who should contact the other person first. :s
It's strange because he doesn't often contact me first but when I do, he always asks me out again and acts very interested so I'm overall a bit confused.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2006
Fri, 04-10-2009 - 12:43pm
I don't think it matters what the rules are for who contacts who, if there are any, and I think if you're still interested in getting together with him, then contact him and see if he can/will meet up with you.

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