Single mama trying to get back out there

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Single mama trying to get back out there
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Tue, 01-06-2009 - 10:46pm
Hey everyone. Great to be here.
I am a single mom of a 10 month old little boy, and I am divorced. I feel like I have just woken up after being in a coma (being pregnant and having a young baby can feel like a blur sometimes). I am finally getting back in touch with the land of the living, now that Mason is older and more self-sufficient, and now that I have lost all the baby weight. I am REALLY lonely (and horny, but nevermind that), and ready to spend time with men again, but I don't know how to go about it, now that I have Mason depending on me. I don't have a lot of free time; I work full time and spend most of the rest of my time with Mason or taking care of my home/errands. I have done the club scene/the friends-with-benefits scene before...and that led nowhere fast. I can't be acting like that now, anyway. I want to find a good man (preferably of the chocolate variety) that is mature, funny, and can handle the kid thing. Is this even possible? Are there single guys like that out there? Where do I find one? Thanks in advance for any advice!
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Registered: 03-19-2006
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 10:35am

Hey MM1,


I wanted to reply to your post because

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 2:08pm
When I got div, my kids were 7 & 1, so I understand how hard it is--don't want to scare you, but I don't think I had a date for 3 yrs, meanwhile my ex was going out to bars and meeting women. He did see the kids a lot, but at first he didn't have a place to keep them overnight on the weekends, so he would come over during the day, which didn't give me much time to meet guys. By then, I was over 40 anyway, so kind of old to go out to bars. When he started taking them on weekends (when he met his current wife), then I had more time to go out. I did meet people through on-line, but I met my 2nd DH at Parents w/o Partners. I do think those kind of groups are good since everyone has kids, so they wouldn't be averse to meeting a woman w/ a baby.