Spending the night
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| Mon, 08-18-2008 - 2:47pm |
Saturday, I went out with this guy I have been dating almost 2 months. We had a nice time, went to dinner, sex, watched the olympics, drinks at my house but at midnight he had to go home. I don't understand, because there are no kids at his house during this time and my daughter spent the night at my dads. I have known him for 4 years, I am wondering why he chose to go home instead of spending the night? I am 31, he is 40. This is our second time dating. The first time we dated 4 years ago, we were in the exact situation later he told me he left because he was afraid of intimacy in a relationship. Is this the case now? He since sent me text messages and telephone calls on Sunday and Monday, telling me he had a great time, he adores me, and today he misses me. Why not spend the night?

"The first time we dated 4 years ago, we were in the exact situation later he told me he left because he was afraid of intimacy in a relationship."
Sex does not necessarily mean intimacy to most men, but actual sleeping together is very intimate.
Yes, you do have a point. I am not trying to smother him, and I did not mention it to him that it bothered me for him not to spend the night. I just wondered why he did not. It seems at times he is coming on strong to me, and then backs off. He is sending me mixed messages. I will let the chips fall where they may, if it works out that would be great and if not it was not meant to be. I have a habit of trying to control the direction of
I think that once you start having a sexual relationship w/ someone and then want to stop, it's probably going to mean some trouble in the relationship.
Rather then guess just ask....
Just say you thought he would stay th night and were surprised when he didn't and were wondering why..
Maybe he snores or drools and is embarrassed? lol
Don't assume anything - Ask Him!
I vote on a fear of intimacy.
I say he has intimacy issues...