The strangest date I ever been on

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The strangest date I ever been on
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Wed, 11-11-2009 - 9:42am

Hey all, new here and somewhat new to the dating scene. Reading some of these posts has been an eyeopener and I can not wait to read the book so many of you suggest "A Fine Romance" by Judith Sills.

Anyway, I was in a relationship that lasted about a year, but it became on again off again after about 9 months. I should know better, once it becomes on again off again... it's over! Oh well, lessons are repeated until they are learned.

So, I go to a football get-together with friends, met a man, we hit it off immediately, we see each other again at another party, talk a lot, things seem good. He walks me to my car, asks for my number, I give it to him, blah, blah, blah, I have to go, he tries to kiss me, well, I turn my head... I don't want to kiss him yet, I just met him. So we hug good-bye. Next day he texts me and we do the text volley all day and he asks me out for the following Sat. night and I accept. Texting continues all week and he asks if I have any time before Sat to meet him, so I do Thurs. for 1.5 hours while my son is at practice. Again, we have fun and hit it off. He walks me to my car and we just did the Grandmom kiss goodbye. Ok, Sat night comes, he comes to my house to pick me up for our date, walks in the door, grabs me and plants the biggest, wettest, sloppiest kiss (tongue and all) on me. Uuummmm, hello??? If I didn't want to kiss you the 1st or 2nd time we met what makes you think I want your tongue down my throat now? So I'm a little freaked out by this but I let it go. So he comes in and is admiring my house and says "ok, give me the tour" and I said, "no, this is all you get" he says "oh come on, you're not going to show me your room?", I said, "no, my rooms a mess, the main part of the house is always neat and clean and that's all anyone gets to see" He persists with "oh, like I've never seen a messy room" Okkayyyy, I'm a single mom, work full-time, go to 4 college classes a week and I keep my house clean except my bedroom is the catch all for everything and I do not want to show this guy my room, drop-it man!! OK, so we sit down and start chatting and one of his first questions is "so when was the last time you were on a date"? Huh? Do people ask that on the first official date? So I tell him I don't want to talk about that. Later, he describes in detail a scenario of his favorite display of PDA and wants me to return with mine... again, I don't really know how to respond to this nor do I want to...

So we go to dinner... and he says "so of all the guys you've had a relationship with, what was their underwear preference"? WHAT??? Are you kidding me? You want to know if my ex-husband wore boxers or briefs??!! WOW! The rules of dating really have changed!! So we get back to my house and again he brings up the underwear conversation.... come to find out he wears thongs and apparently REALLY wants me to know this and asks if I want to see it, I said "no", I turn around to do something and when I turn back around he has his pants down showing me his thong/butt!!! Being that it was late, we were alone and had had some drinks, I very politely told him I was not interested in seeing his underwear preference and quickly but politely told him it was time for him to go.

Anyway, that was my first date in while and it may be my last for a while!!

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 7:45pm
I almost spat my coffee all over my computer screen! That is hilarious, but I am sure it must have been shocking at the time!
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Registered: 10-22-2009
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 4:14am
Yeah I'm not really sure what the options were. If ya gotta go, ya gotta go. He obviously had to, and then some ... it must have been a gallon! We were absolutely stuck in traffic and it took us over 90 minutes to get through, so I guess he didn't have a choice. Still, I would assume he would have just tried to pee discretely on his car or something, he didn't have to do it in plain view of everyone including me. Or just open his car door and use it as a shield and politely ask me to look away. Anything but what happened!
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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 6:39am
One more thing: you simply must read "My Blind Date Went Blind." Your story could have been in the book!
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Tue, 05-18-2010 - 9:43am
I'm coming in really late but I just wanted to say that this thread is hysterical! I hope you will keep these coming because I want to hear more! ;)

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 9:51am

I went on a blind date years ago. I was told this guy (a friend of my girlfriend's boyfriend) was tall and played football. We went on a double date with our mutual friends. I had no idea what the men had planned.

He ended up being an extremely overweight, out of shape guy who looked like he hardly ever bathed.

They took us to see Basic Instinct. (that tells you how long ago it was lol) Nice "date" movie, right?

He drank beer in the backseat of the car on the way to the movie. He burped a lot from it and it smelled like vegetable soup. (shudder)

That was the strangest date I've ever been on, and I refused to another blind date ever again after that!

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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 3:50pm
Do you have a video camera or can borrow one? Video your self in conversations and at home. Pay very hard on your body language. You might be giving off mixed messages!!! You will not know until you see your self!!
This was a learning technique done by John Molloy who helped people overcome negative or unwanted body language(among other things)
Dating is very different and if you are rusty then may I advise coffee dates. I myself hate dating.
But coffee,dates are fine.
One word of warning do not get into endless email,texting.
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Registered: 06-18-2007
Thu, 06-10-2010 - 3:24pm

One of the strangest dates I've ever been on, and I've had a few really bad blind dates....

I met the guy for a drink after work. We sat at the bar, then moved into a booth. He was very familiar -- touching, leaning in, as if he'd known me a long time --- he mentioned the colour of my hair, which has a red hue, and said 'are you a natural? to which I replied, of course. So then he went on to ask if certain body parts had the colouring that went along with it. At first I didn't quite get what he was asking, so I asked for clarification. He said 'you know, your nipples, are they pink like a redheads?' I sat there, stunned, then said, 'Did you really just ask me that?" he said, oh, well, I was just wondering." and I said, "First and foremost, that is not something you ask a woman, especially on a first meet, and secondly, you will never know!" and then promptly said it was time for the date to end and I left. He had the audacity to follow me out and ask if he could walk me home. I said, no I'm going to the subway and quickly lost myself in the Friday night crowded sidewalks. What a creep!

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Fri, 06-11-2010 - 11:49am
You would think that a date set up by your friends would be better than doing OLD, but not necessarily the case. My SIL has had a couple of disastrous blind dates set up by friends. The 1st one she said the guy's car basically had a floor board that was coming apart--she was afraid to put her foot down. I can't remember what else about him she said, but it was generally bad. The 2nd one, the guy asks her to go to a Mexican restaurant in our area called Maragarita's. When the waitress came to ask if they wanted anything to drink, he didn't ask her what she wanted and said "we'll just have water." Then she chimed in that she wanted a soda. I guess paying for the Margarita would be way too much! You know, if he wanted it to be a really cheap date, they could have just met for coffee instead of going to a restaurant.
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Fri, 06-11-2010 - 11:55am

He said 'you know, your nipples, are they pink like a redheads?'


OMG!

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Fri, 06-11-2010 - 12:04pm

You know, if he wanted it to be a really cheap date, they could have just met for coffee instead of going to a restaurant.


Agreed!

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