Too Risky?

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Registered: 03-06-2006
Too Risky?
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 5:30pm

Hello Everyone,

I have a question... I have been single for almost 2 yrs. (by choice) I wanted to get over a betrayal/divorce and not have a "rebound" relationship. So now I think I'm readly to start dating again. So my mom has mentioned a that I should go out on a date with her neighbor. I have seen him a few times but I'm not sure if I should approach him. The few times I have seen him we said "hi" to each other, there have been a couple of times where I notice him waiting for me to see him but nothing more than that. So the problem is... how should I do it? I'm really shy so I'm not sure that I'd be able to ask. How can I hint that I would like to go out sometime? Any suggestions?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: angieie2006
Tue, 07-11-2006 - 6:37pm

Hi Angie,


As I was reading your post... I was imagining myself.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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In reply to: angieie2006
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 12:24pm

Thanks for the reply. You can't inagine how many times I've played scenarios through my head. LOL The few times I have seen him I tell myself to walk up to him to "introduce" myself. But then I just freeze and just wave!! Ugh!! Another thing is that I know a few things about him already, like where he works, what sports he likes and few other things through my mom and brother. Should I pretend as if I don't know this info. just to srike up a conversation? Thanks again!!

Angie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: angieie2006
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 12:32pm
Well, you could just say "hi" and "what are you up to today?"

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: angieie2006
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 12:36pm
Another thought is... is you're out... and he's out... wave him to "come on over!"

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-05-2004
In reply to: angieie2006
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 2:56pm
Angie -
Sometimes talking is the HARDEST part. I find it easier to talk to people that are brand new, because you get to know everything about them and can explore those things. I've been hanging out w/ my crush for a while now, and every once in a while we fall into these comfortable silences. I'm okay w/ it, but sometimes I'm kicking myself like "Say something stupid!!!"
- J

- J. Darling

Singehttp://img.photobucket.com/albums/v244/JDarling/Headshots/Picture001.jpgr, Songwriter, Author for Celebr

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In reply to: angieie2006
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 12:29pm
Thank you all for your replies. I feel like I'm making a bigger deal than it should be. All of the info. I know about him is because my mom wants me to start dating, but I wasn't ready until now, and she's been suggesting for me to date her neighbor. So she'll say little things like, "he has a good job at ________" or "he coaches a hockey team" things like that. It's not because I asked. Because we don't "bump" into each other very often I don't know when I'll see him. So now I just have to wait for the moment to happen... Sigh I have gone out dancing and I have a great time, but it seems as if the guys I meet there are only out for one thing, and I'm not about that. You know? So where can I meet a nice guy?
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Registered: 01-05-2004
In reply to: angieie2006
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 2:42pm
This guy seems nice. Have you considered seeing if your mom has his number?

- J. Darling

Singehttp://img.photobucket.com/albums/v244/JDarling/Headshots/Picture001.jpgr, Songwriter, Author for Celebr

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In reply to: angieie2006
Fri, 07-14-2006 - 1:37pm
I'm pretty sure she does'nt have it. Let the waiting game begin.... LOL
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Registered: 05-06-2006
In reply to: angieie2006
Sun, 07-16-2006 - 3:08pm

Am I the only one here who is wondering why your mom doesn't just invite the neighbor over for barbecue or homemade apple pie or whatever sometime when you are there and then you can casually get to know each other?

Not a "come and meet my daughter" thing but, "I saw you out there in your yard and I wondered if you'd like to have barbecue with us tomorrow?" sort of thing. (If your brother can be there also, so much the better.)

Then the neighbor is no longer just a nodding acquaintance, you can go over and chat with him another time, and then if you are still interested, you can say you wouldn't mind going out with him (or however Karen suggested you might put it).

Elsa