Too scared to date again

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Registered: 07-07-2007
Too scared to date again
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Tue, 08-12-2008 - 8:56pm
So I am naive. I have had nothing but bad relationships. They start out good, and then somehowt they all get bad. I have no confidence left. I moved 4 years ago and was in a relationship for 3 of them and he was my whole world-i know now that was wrong. But now I have no one. My friends were his friends. Now for the last year I have been living alone working as much as possible to avoid the pain of being alone. and I still have no one. The few friends that I managed to make have moved away. I feel like an empty shell of the person that I used to be. I am afraid of "putting myself out there" because I was broken down so badly. Now I have no confidence, and no one to turn to. It is getting to the point that even working so much has become too much. I dont get any satisfaction there either, I am always taken for granted in everything I do, but I dont know how to be any other way. When I look at myself I feel so down and depressed. My sister always tells me how beautiful I am and that I should be grateful for my job, and the things that I do have. But my family is over 600 miles away. I am afraid to give up but afraid to get out there. I have been taken advantage of so many times. I just feel like I am at the end of my rope. Sorry to go on and on but I feel so alone and no one really understands.
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Registered: 01-05-2006
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 8:17am

I think more people understand than you think.


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 12:15pm
I agree that you should start w/ seeing a therapist.
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Registered: 07-07-2007
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 7:51pm
Thank you so much for the advice. I appreciate your insight. I dont know if I have clinical depression or if I am just going through a depressing time in my life. I will focus on me more, I have never really done that before. I have always wanted to do for other people. The problem is that I don't know what would make me happy. I know I need to make some goals for myself and do things that I enjoy, but honestly I have NEVER done things for ME before. So this is all new. I would like to move back closer to my family but getting a job right now there would be difficult, I have looked. I feel like I would be giving up if I moved back.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 12:08pm

I don't think it's "giving up" at all to want to be closer to your family & maybe old friends.