Trying to Figure Things Out
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|Tue, 04-23-2013 - 12:03am|
I've been dating this guy for a few weeks now and just trying to figure out whether I'm asking the right questions to figure out whether he is looking for a relationship? Last Saturday he text me in the morning asking if I wanted to hang out and we made plans to meet up in the afternoon. I text him in the afternoon asking what the plan was and he texts me back saying that he was still on a long bike ride and if he got back late we could meet up the next day. I never responded to his text because I was pretty annoyed that our plans fell through. The next day he text me asking if I was available in the afternoon to meet up and then called me when I didn't respond. We spoke for a few minutes and I told him that I was not available to meet up because I already had plans and then asked him if he bailed on plans the day before because he was blowing me off? He said that he didn't expect his bike ride to go long and so just assumed we could meet the next day and then apologized for seeming like he was blowing me off. We met up a few days later for a drink. I told him that I felt like I was the one that was always making plans and was trying to figure out whether we didn't enjoy making plans. He was receptive to the feedback and said that he needed to be better about making plans. He sent me a text message with the link to some you tube video. It was the video to some portugese song. I text him whether this was spam and he said that it was a song that made him think of me. I had to look up the song/lyrics because I had never heard of it before. He acutally emailed me yesterday asking if I would be interested in going to a 20s themed event during the week. I said I was up for it so we are hanging out again tomorrow.
I guess I'm wondering whether I'm being too anxious on trying to figure things out rather than enjoying the company and trying to get to know him. The last few relationships I had were with guys I was friends with and then it progressed to something more. I think I'm trying to figure out whether he and I can be friends or are friends? Maybe this is something that takes time to happen and I can't assume it will happen overnight. Any advice? Is it a good sign that its pretty easy to communicate with him and he is receptive to things that bother/annoy me rather than defensive?