What is....

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Registered: 07-23-2012
What is....
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Thu, 01-10-2013 - 3:44pm

What is the worst thing about being in "the dating game"?

Is it searching for someone online?

Finding someone when out and about with friends?

What seems to be the difficulties in dating these days?

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Registered: 04-13-2007
In reply to: cmthia
Sun, 01-13-2013 - 5:30am
Music, that is true. The issue i am noting is that after a certain ag, most of the men and women have been burned that it affects they way they act. Both become more wary of new relationships, with men trying to avoid them, while women become more cynical in them (expect the worst automatically). As a man, i see it in the few people i have had interest in, and it gets tiring. While i do not think i could date some one more than 5 yrs my junior, i can sometimes see the desire to find the sense of hope/ faith that used to be a part of relationships in our younger days.. it maybe naivety, and some may try to take advantage, but it is refreshing when you find it. but i cant deal with the maturity gap.. :-) OLD does have many expectations, people looking for an exact match..i have noticed that i am more picky when it comes to reading online profiles and the communication that follows, as opposed to meeting in person. So hoping to get out more this year, meet more people th e old fashioned way, in person.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: cmthia
Fri, 01-11-2013 - 12:02pm

I think the whole dating game is difficult.  Of course I'm writing from the perspective of a middle aged divorced person, so younger people would have their own difficulties.  I think at my age a lot of guys are divorced and not that anxious to get into another relationship--they want FWB or no commitment.  If you do OLD, at least where I live (near a big city) there seem to be plenty of men but many of them are looking for very attractive women 10-20 yrs younger than they are--I don't want to date a guy a lot older than me cause they will be ready for the nursing home soon.  I think it's actually easier to meet someone in person but you have to make an effort to go out and be sociable.