What are your opinions about this?

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Registered: 08-27-2001
What are your opinions about this?
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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 5:56pm

Yesterday I was chatting on the internet with a guy about family, kids, etc etc.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 05-07-2009 - 11:15am
Since he is coming to your country anyway, maybe you can meet him in person & see how things go. Then you can decide if you want to pursue a relationship w/ him. I work as a lawyer in a law firm where most of the people are from China--we are in the US. It's pretty common for Chinese immigrants who are here to go back to China & meet someone to get married & bring them here. Sometimes it works out & sometimes it doesn't. I do think that many people from China who don't have many economic opportunities there will do just about anything to come here--I have seen women marry guys 20-40 yrs older than them, then the guys are surprised when it doesn't work out. But sometimes it does, so who knows? I think people have to be pretty daring to leave their home country, all their friends, etc. to travel to a new country w/ someone they don't know very well.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2001
Thu, 05-07-2009 - 12:01pm
Well. I can meet him of course but I only consider him as a friend not anything else, but he thinks differently and I dont intend to leave my country to get married or anything he wishes I can do. I dont live in China by the way I live in Central America and I dont pretend to get married just for a better stability in antoher country either without loving the person I am going to marry. I mean this guy makes things look nice and all, but I dont feel as he does. I
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 05-07-2009 - 12:33pm
I think that happens a lot w/ people who get very interested in talking to someone thru the internet. Then sometimes when they meet in person, it's not the same at all. That's why when I did on line dating, I learned not to drag things out too long before meeting them cause it could be a real waste of time. I think you need to give this guy a direct message that you have no romantic interest in him so he can look for someone else. He probably has a big romantic fantasy built up about you.
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Registered: 08-27-2001
Thu, 05-07-2009 - 10:41pm

I think u are right, he is fantasizing with me Big time. In fact since we met at any mometn he has told about h im h aving gf in the past or dated either, well I never ask him anyway.


Each time he finds me online he greets me "Hey precious, hey beauty" And when I dont reply to him for minutes and minutes, he then chat,

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Sat, 05-09-2009 - 2:18pm

Don’t worry he does not seem like a sick or whacko guy, he seems sincere>most whacko's do not sound sick or whacko they sound very sincere.


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Registered: 08-27-2001
Thu, 05-14-2009 - 8:36pm

Earlier todya this guy got in contact with me again after some days of not chatting with me. He said today: Hello how are you. You know I

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Fri, 05-15-2009 - 9:39am

I am very happy that you have decided not to meet with him at all.


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Registered: 08-27-2001
Fri, 05-15-2009 - 10:07pm

Well since the guy and I first meet like 2 yrs ago already, we never communicate by exchanging emaill messages in fact he has never sent me one email sicne we first met. we only chat thru messenger