What is he thinking?

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Registered: 03-09-2005
What is he thinking?
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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 2:51pm

OK I've been dating this guy for 2 months now. He came of very strong talking about love and marriage. (we're in our 40's,both divorced for many years)

He stopped calling me once last week or so ago,after a couple of days I called to see what was going on? He said he was busy with work and that he was upset because I had asked him this question "what is your definition of available?"!!! I only asked bcz he kept saying "when you are available"

Now he is doing the no calling again because I told him (very nicely) not to lay down on the floor lanes when we were bowling!!

Last time I figured it was over, he was shocked that i thought he had broken up with me and I told him to please not do that again.That if he needs space to just tell me!

I don't know what to think and I don't want to be the one calling everytime he gets insulted over petty stuff.

What's up with this guy?

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Registered: 03-09-2005
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 9:49am

That was funny! Good question as to why I would want to stick around?
He paid A LOT of attention to me!! And that's my weakness.... He was also a big spender and very generous. I knew there was some screws loose somewhere but I guess i didn't want to make a big deal of it. And I thought he was kind and caring (that turned out to be the biggest disappointment)

Bottom line, I resisted believing him, but he didn't give up came on stronger and stronger, he even cried! and when he called my mom and talked to her about marrying me, which is a custom in my culture, I stopped resisting...

That's when it all fell apart. Now my recent conclusion with dating (relationships) is that once they know they've got you, it's basically over!

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 2:25pm

I just recently got out of a relationship where he came on strong persued me, was very loving & protecting, showed a lot of respect, so on and so forth.


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Registered: 03-09-2005
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 6:56pm

I hear you! That's why I started going to Coda. How bad I wished he had been for real...specially my ex fiance. I loved him so much.

But wishfull thinking is not going to make that a reality. I haven't heard from him in a long long time...

Greiving that relationship has been very hard. When I met this one, I thought God was making it up to me!!! (what a joke!)

I don't know what God has in store for me or you,but I hope there is justice in the world.

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