What is more important for your online profile..The picture or the write-up?

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Registered: 03-14-2011
What is more important for your online profile..The picture or the write-up?
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Sat, 04-02-2011 - 3:14pm

I think we will all agree it is important to show your best.

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Registered: 09-12-2005

Well, ideally it's the combination of both. Personally, I would be very hesitant to write to a guy who's profile is great, but who doesn't have a picture. I've noticed that some men (who are not serious) copy other people's profiles or parts of them because the dating site requires a text. And even if he wrote the profile himself, I would be worried about the embarassement of contacting someone and then having to tell them that I'm not attracted.

So for me the picture is more important. IF the guy is my type physically and has a very vague or short description of himself. But if the text is full of mistakes or conveys something that I don't like, then I wouldn't contact him either.

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Registered: 03-14-2011

I have to agree with you, ideally both are important.

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Registered: 01-02-2008

Hi;

I am wondering why you are asking this or telling about it now that you have found someone and are dating him?

Anyway; I do some online dating and for me a photo is somewhat important but to be honest there was a guy who sent me an email one time from OLD.. He didnt have a photo posted but I wasnt turned off by him not having one. So I agreed to meet him ...

Guess what? He was very very attractive but before I met him for the first time we had spoken on the phone and he sounded very very nice so I said ; what the heck. So it turned out okay.

Although having a photo is a better option since people are basically attracted by physical I wouldnt totally rule out the non photo thing..if you can talk first with the person and get to know them a bit before meeting.

By the way I have met men who have photos and I meet them and they are not even who they say they are and have posted photos of their brothers or cousins (lol)

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Registered: 01-25-2010

Both!

Goldfish

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Registered: 03-14-2011

Even thought I have someone, I have lots of single friends.

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Registered: 12-05-2010

I think there is a difference for men and women online. Since men are visual creatures, a good, recent

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Registered: 10-16-2006

I hear it a lot that "men are more visual than women" but I disagree. Both sexs are. A man's photo for me is very important. It has a lot to do with the way he presents himself, not so much how good-looking he is. I am not attracted to the conventionally handsome guy anyway, so "attractive" is in the eye of the beholder. Most people cannot write very well, so it makes it kind of hard for me to get excited about a profile that is badly written (misspelled, bad grammar, generic). But a photo can definitely rule someone out for me, things like fat, grizzled, redneck, no shirt. Nerdy or too conservative looking doesn't appeal to me either.

I once heard from a guy who hadn't posted a photo yet. He happened to be a good writer and was interested in many of the things I was interested in. I asked for a photo, but I really couldn't see him very well in it. We met anyway and he turned out to be pretty cute. But the joke's on me: he never asked me out.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I think the photo is very important to women too--the way match does the search, you only see the photos so if I think the guy is unattractive, I won't even look at his profile.

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Registered: 08-30-1999

The picture.

Proof: Sign up for a site with a picture of an attractive woman in her early to mid 20s.