What speed should things go?

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Registered: 11-01-2008
What speed should things go?
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Sun, 11-09-2008 - 9:11pm

Hello everyone,


I am recovering from some serious losses relationship-wise

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Registered: 12-02-2007
Mon, 11-10-2008 - 11:49am
Both of you as you have mentioned, are quite nervous about the dating stuff.. I think that might explains it. He's nervous, and he may also doesn't want to blow it (as much as you don't like to blow it;that's one thing. But, be wary of some other signs..if he seems evasive and some what changed, don't panic.. Play it cool and never be the one to push the idea about the date. Let him do his part instead. He maybe nervous but he's a well experienced man in the world of dating, plus the fact that he has kids already.. I know you don't want to blow it. That's why don't ever get clingier if he pulls away ('cause if you do, tendency is he'll run away from you). And do stop overanalyzing why he turned evasive. Keep in mind that if ever he pulls away, you'll surely find a better guy cause you're worth it. Never think that he's a loss. If a guy is really into you, no matter how busy he is, he'll find you and spend time with you---that's a fact. Instead of thinking about him, focus on your self. What is it that you want. What are the non-negotiable characters you look for in a guy? Then socialize so your attention will be diverted. Thru this, you're dong yourself a favor by avoiding to get hurt unnecessarily. Past relationship failures are enough. Don't waste your time thinking about a guy with such lame excuses.
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Mon, 11-10-2008 - 1:53pm

Hi winluvnsparkle,


Thank you for your excellent advice.

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Registered: 12-02-2007
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 8:58pm

I'm happy that you two were able to work it out. Sometimes "us" women tend to complicate things and we overanalyze the situation. You have to be very careful with it and think rationally first before taking any action or decision. Be in control of your life..=) As for you two, I do hope you'll end up happy together. Remember to lower your expectations, go with the flow and enjoy each moment..=)