Where do I stand with her?

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Where do I stand with her?
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Thu, 04-23-2009 - 11:25pm
Here's my story. i met a girl through some mutual friends about a year ago. I got her number and left her a few messages but she never called me back. Finally I got a hold of her and we talked for a little while. I asked her to go to my brothers wedding with me. She didn't go. I guess it was kind of a bad idea anyway since I was the best man. We finally met in person the night before our friends wedding ( we were paired up in the bridal party). The night of the wedding we talked while we danced. I could tell she was nervous. After the dance, I went back to the table with her and talked a little more. I thought things went pretty well. I told her I would call her to make plans to go out two weeks later when I was back in town( We live 2 hours apart). We did go out to the movies. I have tried to invite her to some events in my area but she never accepted. She did accept to go to my company Christmas party. I tried getting in touch with her to make sure she could go but again she didn't return my calls. I called her best friend to find out what was going on. That is when I found out her dad was in the hospital in critical condition. I competely understood why she hadn't called me back. I was in town visiting family around the time her dad was in the hospital so I got some flowers and took them to the hospital. I was worried about her and wanted to see if there was anything I could do for her. She was very quiet that night and I could tell how upset and worried she was. I didn't stay very long. I told her to let me know if she needed anything and that she could call me anytime to talk no matter how late it was. I told her that if she decided not to go to the party that I completely understood. I really wanted her to go but I knew that she would be distracted and wouldn't have a good time because she would feel guilty for not being with her family. I didn't call her for a while. I was trying to give her time to deal with everything without me bothering her. Since then, we have started to talk again mainly via text. I tried to make plans to get together with her when I was in town 2 weekends ago. I got a message from her saying that she would like to get together if I wasn't to busy. I made plans to go to dinner with some friends but asked her to go with us since i thought she wanted to spend time with me. I got a text saying that she was babysitting and couldn't make it until later. I was a little confused.
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Fri, 04-24-2009 - 8:14am

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Registered: 02-27-2009
Sun, 04-26-2009 - 5:38pm
IMHO It sounds to me like she's not interested.
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Sun, 04-26-2009 - 6:25pm

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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 9:42am
I'll weigh in on this one, too. IMO
**gentle hugs**

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Registered: 05-02-2009
Mon, 05-04-2009 - 2:52am

I get the feeling that she might be interested in you


I made plans to go to dinner with some friends but asked her to go with us since i thought she wanted to spend time with me.


I had a guy did the same thing to me as well. I was interested in him totally. But i wanted to spend time with him alone, not with his friends, friends whom i don't even know. Maybe you should consider this from her perspective too.