White men!! Date a girl with bi-racial kids?
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|Mon, 05-02-2011 - 4:16pm|
* PLEASE DO NOT TURN THIS INTO A RACIAL BLACK VS. WHITE THREAD!! That is not my intent and PLEASE save any racist remarks for someone else. i deal enough with that on a daily basis. *
Hello all, I am new to this board and thought I would start a thread of my own after reading various opinions on other websites after googling "will white guys date a woman with bi-racial kids". My brief background: I am white, 35 years old. Recently divorced (husband was black). Have 3 bi-racial (BEAUTIFUL) kids; ages 16, 12, and 8.
I had a friend I worked with several years back. He knew I had kids but didn’t know they were bi-racial. Well once I got divorced, our friendship quickly went to more and eventually we were very close and in love, practically engaged.
Well the more he came around the house and spent time with me AND my kids he started acting strange. One day he told me that most white guys have a huge problem dating white girls that have been with black guys, especially those women that have children with the black guy. He told me that in white guy world is considered "cleaning up a black guys mess".
I couldn’t quite come to terms with that because if my kids were white why wouldn’t he be "cleaning up a white guys mess" if they are indeed cleaning up someones mess? He told me it's an issue because white guys can't go in public with my kids and atleast pretend they are his kids because they clearly aren't.
Needless to say, this caused a lot of problems. Through all of this, he always worded it as " other white guys think this way ". He always made it clear