Why do I do this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2004
Why do I do this?
1
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 12:00am

Hi all-

I dated this guy around Jan/Feb and things were awesome. We did end up talking about "what we were" and he said he wanted to take things slow before he jumped into a relationship b/c his last ex turned a little crazy and is still calling/texting him to this day. Anyways, after that we became more distant and we stopped talking. A few weeks ago we started talking through messenger and then I asked if he wanted to go out and play some pool. We did and he seemed pretty into it (flirting and stuff)-however I didn't know how to handle myself b/c I wasn't sure if this was "friends" or more than that. He insisted he pay for everything and invited me up to his place afterwards but again didn't know how to act--I just played with his new puppy for awhile and then hugged him goodbye. I guess the problem is before we stopped talking things felt weird and I wasn't sure if he wanted to date anymore. When I asked him what happened and why we stopped talking he said he had projects at the end of the quarter to finish and some family issues he didn't want to involve me in. (His dad has MS). So I don't know if that is just crap or not---and I don't know what to think about things now. I really liked him before and it felt like he liked me too and now I don't know what he feels and I really would feel weird coming out and asking him. My plan is to see if he calls/texts me-if he does he would still be interested right? The only thing that I worry about is if he is waiting for me to text and is unsure of what I feel.........Maybe if the exes are still communicating with him, that's a bad thing? Truthfully-I wish I could just stop worrying about it so much, but this is the first guy I have really liked since I broke up with my ex 5 months ago!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2006
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 10:43am

It was to early in the relationship to start having a serious talk about what we are.


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