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| Wed, 10-08-2008 - 3:25pm |
When I was dating my fiance she was a little tentative. She kept me at an arms distance. She had been cheated on so she was just not going drop her guard, not that I blamed her. I had the same feelings. She told me on more than one occasion that she would not get involved with anyone that cheated on their spouse.
So would you get serious with someone that cheated on their spouse?
Just wondering.
Irish Tom
Edited 10/8/2008 3:26 pm ET by irish_tom

No I would not, however I did date a man that said his exwife cheated on him, but I later found out that he is the one the did the cheating.
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You're going to get a lot of "no's" I will bet!
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I think it depends on the reason that the person cheated. It's easy to point fingers and condemn someone who strays from their marriage, but until all the facts are known, how can anyone say that if someone cheated once, then they'll cheat again.
When the topic of marital infidelity is raised, it seems like the automatic response is to assume that the persons involved are doing so because the opportunity presented itself. In many cases that might be true. However, what about the person trapped in a marriage where their emotional or physical needs are not met by their partner. People often stay in loveless marriages because of family circumstances, financial issues, or other reasons that preclude divorce as an option. Are they to put their needs neatly away on the top shelf of the closet and live lives of quiet desperation? Is it even fair to ask them to do that?
It might apply in some cases, but to make a blanket statement like "once a cheater, always a cheater" or "if they've cheated once, it's 99.99999% certain that they'll cheat again" is unfounded and unfair.
So would I get seriously involved with a person who cheated? I guess it depends on why they cheated.
You're mileage may vary
Hi, just my opinion here but a cheater is also a liar, no matter the reason they cheated.
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