Would you date a guy who doesnt have ...

iVillage Member

Registered: 11-21-2004

5	Thu, 12-24-2009 - 10:13am

Would you date a guy who doesnt have a job???

NO
yes
I dont know??

You will not be able to change your vote.

Please let the animals live!!

Signatures On

age_of_aquarius

iVillage Member

Registered: 08-24-2006

In reply to: heathersimpson80

Would you date a guy who doesnt have ...

Thu, 12-24-2009 - 4:43pm

In this economy I know many really smart, good guys (and women) who were laid off and there is just nothing available that will pay as much or more than unemployment will. So it would depend on the situation, but I wouldn't rule it out. I also recently dated a guy for a short time who was on disability, and that was not an issue for me.

musiclover12

iVillage Member

Registered: 11-28-1999

In reply to: heathersimpson80

Would you date a guy who doesnt have ...

Thu, 12-24-2009 - 9:42pm

First I would have to say that would be a really diff. situation for a guy to be in, even more than a woman, because we do kind of expect them to pay for 1st dates and I think it would be difficult for their sense of self-worth to have to admit that they don't have money & the woman would have to pay her own way most of the time. I also agree that not having a job could just be bad luck--it doesn't mean the person is lazy. My best friend (a woman) got laid off from a job she had for 27 yrs and it took her 6 mos. to find a new job, because she was looking for a high level position. So I would say that it would depend on the circumstances. But if he didn't seem to be too concerned about finding another job any time soon, it wouldn't last too long--not that I expect him to pay for me, but how could he even pay for himself to go anywhere if he has no job? I don't want my dating life to consist of sitting at home & watching TV--I can do that by myself.

cl_petulia777

iVillage Member

Registered: 06-01-2009

In reply to: heathersimpson80

Would you date a guy who doesnt have ...

Tue, 12-29-2009 - 9:46pm

I've had a bit of experience with the no jobbers/under-employed. What I didn't care for was the lackidasical lazy dater attitude that went along with the no-job.

Both guys waited for me to call or wanted me to call for a meet. One even sent me a snotty message about waiting by the phone and then...nothing. Meaning he gave up and told me he was moving on.

The other guy called three times wanting to do the last minute fly-by coffee deal. Not a turn-on. And that has nothing to do with his not having a job.

So, I'm not totally opposed. I love doing stuff outdoors, most of which doesn't need money. But I need a guy with energy and a bit of take-charge.