Asian girl on match

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Registered: 07-03-2014
Asian girl on match
Thu, 07-03-2014 - 7:49pm

Hi People, 

I am an Asian woman who recently got on - its been less then a week. I live in a city/area which is not really known for ethnic variety - it is a predominantly Caucasian population and so are the folks on (since I am looking locally). I am getting hits from men that I don't particularly think fit my idea of a date (way older/single fathers... etc) and those that I think might - have not responded to my mails. I have to say that its been less then a week but I am not happy with what I see. 

I wonder if Caucasians like to date Asians... or is it just me... or is it the conservative area I live in.... or... oh, I don't know - give it some more time. My friends at work met their BFs/ hubands on match - all of them Caucasian... :-) Have I made a big fat mistake by buying a subscription on match? 

Any ideas.... 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 07-03-2014 - 8:25pm

How old are you?  I live near a major city so the idea of dating people of another race or ethnic group isn't very unusual but if you are in a more conservative area or where mostly everybody is Caucasian, it might be a little harder.  You really really have to give this more time--I'd say at least a month.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2014
Thu, 07-03-2014 - 9:05pm
I am 40 - but dating 55 year olds isn't my thing. My physician (who is a 60 yr old Caucasian guy) finds it hard to make friends in this area - so not surprisingly finding someone who might want to date a 40 year old Asian woman will decidedly be harder. Yes, more time. Until then... *sigh*
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 07-05-2014 - 12:50pm

  It is you that is the problem.   Meet many men.  Notice what is going on about town.  Be seen!  It is very important to be seen.  Be nice to everyone.   In a new town they may  have known each other for years.    The new woman  may have it more difficult.    Being nice to the ugly  always gains you a better chance with the handsome but timid.(of coure if you are looking for the buster busting romance type ...)  It is a lot of what turns you on. 

is it I just want to go out with a man (a date)?

is it I'm looking for an undercover lover(wehile I am stuck in podunk)?

is is I am husband hunting?

   To hunt you need to decide on the prey.  A lioness deciding on dinner might think well i really am hungry for some Antelope had warthog yesterday.


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Registered: 11-22-2003
Tue, 07-08-2014 - 11:54pm

I live in a big city and it is very diverse. I have several friends who are in bi-racial marriages, including Asians. My ex is Asian and I am not. My baby-sitter is Asian and her husband is caucasian. Her sister, same story. My ex has 4 siblings who are married to caucasians and they all met each other in a smaller town. (I can think of many more people who are in bi-racial relationships but I'll stop! lol) I don't think where you live matters and I don't think race matters. I think it's just hard to meet someone period. I've been single for almost 2 years. I've used OLD and met people outside of it as well. I just haven't had a relationship that's lasted more than a few months and I think it's because I'm a single mom and I work really crazy hours. We all have schedules and life circumstances etc. I really think it's just very hard to meet "the one". I've been on match for a year and have had 4-5 dates from it. Discouraging, yes! But don't give up! I like eHarmony so far (just joined) but I've had 0 dates so far. I guess it won't be much different than match. I'd say give it time! Especially since you're new to the site.