Dating a widower...
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|Mon, 06-23-2014 - 7:16pm|
I've been dating a widower for about 2 months. He has kids, so we see each other only once a week, and have been sleeping together for about a month. The problem is, we are still not exclusive. His wife died about a year ago and I am really the only person he's dated since then so he feels like he needs to see more of what's out there. I also think generally he is not ready to be in a full-on relationship, he has a lot on his plate and everything is still very fresh.
It's hard because I understand and agree with his reasoning, but we just don't know when he is going to figure everything out. I feel like my feelings are kind of on pause (seeing each other once a week is also not enough!). Also, for all his talk, he hasn't gotten very far with the dating other women thing because he doesn't have time to!
He's a great guy and I have had a really hard time finding men I enjoy spending time with. I feel like he is definitely what I am looking for, so I don't want to just set him free. I am just afraid I've met him too early in his process.
How long do you think it's reasonable to be with someone and not be exclusive? Should I continue to date other people? I haven't been because although he's looking for other women, I think trying to focus on more than one man at a time is not fair to anybody. But I'm going a little crazy so maybe I should. Any thoughts would be appreciated.