Unsure

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Registered: 08-06-2006
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Sat, 07-12-2014 - 9:17pm

Hi everyone,

Being single, I wonder if I really really know what I want and what I am looking for in a relationship. There are times that I have this detailed list in my head of what I am looking for in a bf and will put down to put into a profile. There are times that I wonder if I am looking for casual dating or a long-term relationship. So how do you figure out what you are searching for?

Thanks for your thoughts

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Registered: 07-12-2014
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Sat, 07-12-2014 - 10:14pm
Better to discard lists and quit searching. What comes along by chance may surprise you, and may exceed all of your expectations. When it does, you'll know you have found what you need. And don't doubt it: the right one will come along.
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Registered: 07-12-2014
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Sat, 07-12-2014 - 10:15pm
Better to discard lists and quit searching. What comes along by chance may surprise you, and may exceed all of your expectations. When it does, you'll know you have found what you need. And don't doubt it: the right one will come along.
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Registered: 02-25-2013
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Sun, 07-13-2014 - 9:04am

I think every woman's must have list should include a man who is respectful, kind, affectionate, financially stable, high work ethic and makes you a priority. Dealbreakers should include physical or mental abuse, financially unstable, low work ethic, addictions to alchohol or narcotics, and doesn't make time for you.

You must have chemistry with the person. Every person has minor flaws, but if the person has a major flaw, don't give them second chances. Cut them off immediately. Don't make major decisions like moving in together or marrying before knowing a man at least two years. If you have sex with a man, it makes it harder for a woman to keep it casual. When women have sex, hormones are released that make a woman want to bond with a man, even if he's not right for her. Keeping it casual would probably mean dating someone less than 4 months and moving on to someone else. I don't understand what happiness would come from that because I'm a long term type of person, but I know that everyone is different. Good luck.

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In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Sat, 07-19-2014 - 12:04am

Why do you want a relationship? 

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