My bf can't keep an erection! is it me?
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|Wed, 11-10-2004 - 1:05pm|
well when i started to get really upset about it, he thought about it and explained it to me but it just doesnt' make sense. So here is what he said. He said that before he started dating me, he used to give himself handjobs( sorry can't think of any other way to put it) everyday, literally. even when he had other girlfriends he still did it everyday. well when we started having sex, he siad he had stopped giving it to himslef, and ever since then its been hard for him to get hard. He also said before when he did used to do it everyday, he would literally get hard over every little thing, like being sleepy or going over bumps and etc.
To me that just doens't make sense...if he stopped doing it to himself, wouldnt' that make a guy more horny since he is not releasing it himself? Is it me? is he not attracted to me? he swears that its not taht...that he thinks i'm the most beautiful women he has ever met...but i just feel like he is just saying that to comfort me? I feel so bad b/c i dont want to lose him but isn't it true that if there is no sexual attraction the relationship won't last? Or he'll end up cheating to get pleased? I dont' know what to do. I love him so much but if i can't please him then won't he look else where? please any advice would help...i feel awful and my self esteem is just down the drains right now. i've never ever experienced any problems even similiar to this. what hurts more is that he said he has never experienced problems w/ any other girl either so is he just not attracted to me? could the handjobs really affect him that much? Anyone????