Why cant he own up to his mistakes!
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|Tue, 04-10-2007 - 11:03am|
Here is my story. I have been with my current boyfriend for a rocky 4 years. He is an alcoholic. I feel like he intentionaly goes out of his way to hurt me and he wont own up to it. Here is the situation. When I had his second child, I decided to give the child my last name. We were not married and at the time he was not really that responsible. He was upset with me but I told him a name is a name and can easily be changed if you show me that you are resposible and committed to making a change. He decided to have sex with his first BM and produce another child. Put like this, our sons are 9 months a part. I was upset, angry when I found out. He begged me to stay with him and I decided to try to work things out. Obviously, he did not try on his part. He still drink excessively, when he was upset with me he would call on his BM for comfort. I told him that I would leave him right then and there. He told me that he will change yet again and he wanted to start anew. We decided to move out of state.
Things seem to get better, but then I had to complete a job back in my home state during Christmas time. He was upset and hurt that I could not spend Christmas with him this past year. We desperately needed the money and he said he understood. When I returned to my home, I found him in bed (fully clothed) with another woman. I was mortified. I wanted explanations and all he could give me is that he was LONELY.
I want him to own up to what he has done to me and he just wont. He just states that he has made alot of mistakes in the past. Hell I have made alot of mistakes myself. It is like he just does not want to acknowledge what he has done. He thinks that sorry is the quick and easy way out.
I also feel that he enjoys seeing me in pain and hurting. Everytime I hurt him and it is never intentionally he finds a way to get back at me. What is the reason for this behavior and is it worth sticking around?