why does he tease me so much?

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Registered: 04-15-2003
why does he tease me so much?
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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:47pm
hey everyone,

im 19 and the guy i like is 25. I got this shirt and the guy i like made fun of it, i think its sexy, so do my girlfriends, and i bought it cuz it flatters my shoulders cuz its an off-the shoulder shirt, the guy just said it looked like stuff u wore back in the day (but u know how the old stuff is comin back) and he kept poking fun at it like 4-5 times! and he made sure everyone else heard him make fun of it! obviously he noticed it...he doesnt make fun of other girl's clothes...he makes fun my looks (but people say im pretty, and im confident about myself to know that im pretty)--i dont want to sound conceited but. anyway why does he do that?? he does make fun of people but he does it to me the most...my friend told me i set myself up sometimes to be made fun of, and if that is true, do u think thats why he makes fun of me?? not because hes flirting? but just because i set myself up? sometimes i dont even say/do somethin and hell make fun of me!! y do guys make fun of a girl's looks, if they are pretty? y does he make fun of me more? does he like the attention i give him back or something? i make eyecontact with him and he maintains eye contact for about 2-3 seconds and then looks away, then looks back...he does make fun of other people, even girls, but not about the clothes they wear or there looks, and a couple of the girls even notice he makes fun of me the most..he even admitted to me and some other ppl once that he makes fun of me the most! anyway, thanks a lot

-michelle

ps. is the age gap too big? and how can u tell if a person like this guy is interested in a girl, as in, hes the exact opposite of a shy guy.....from what ive written does it sound like he likes me?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 11:03pm
Making fun of you isn't teasing......it's rude! Why does he do it? Because he gets a reaction, why else? If you'd ignore him, he'd stop.

And why would you "like" a guy that makes fun of your clothes? I think you're confusing rudeness with interest. If he IS interested, it's a strange way of showing it.

There's no way anyone here can tell what he's thinking.....so why don't you ask HIM?

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 11:43pm
hes not being rude, i can tell by the way he talks, hes got this huge smile on his face, we have fun teasing each other....i dunno if that changes nething,

-michelle
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 12:03am
Well, I read your post to my BF to get the male opinion, and he said that this guy is probably attracted to you, but feels very insecure - like maybe the guy thinks that a girl as pretty as you couldn't really be interested in him. My BF also said that since the guy feels this way, he is probably teasing you as the best way of getting your attention that he can come up with. After all, even negative attention is better than nothing.

My BF may have a point, but I do think its pretty immature behavior for a 25 year old. I also don't see the 6 year age difference as a problem so much as his emotional immaturity could be. So maybe this guy DOES like you, but he needs to grow up before you get too serious about him. - M.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 6:06am
He may like you but just because he has a huge smile on his face when he’s making fun of you doesn’t mean its not rude.

That would get old pretty quick if it were me, I’d be saying, okay the first time it was cute now its getting annoying. I think you are just blinded by the fact you like him and are letting him get away with not treating you well because you don’t want to appear bad in his eyes, but you may be setting yourself up for a lifetime of him doing what he wants to you because you allow him to do this.

Instead of giggling and thinking its cute, remove yourself from the area when he’s doing it and leave him sitting there alone to wonder why you left. Maybe he’ll grab a clue. At 25 he’s acting like a 15 year old kid and he should know better at that age when enough is enough.

Don’t allow disrespect just because you think the guys cute.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:22am
I think he's extremely immature, and especially since he's 25. Yeah his teasing you may be his way of getting your attention, but its rude. If I were you I wouldn't put up with it... I don't care how cute he is. If you allow him to continue, you two hook up and you'll find that his nit-picky attitude will continue and you'll end up being the subject of all his jokes and laughs.

Don't let someone talk to you like that. You should be self-confident and not let anyone second guess yourself or tear you down. Next time you should snap back at him... let him know that you don't appreciate it.

*Jenni*

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Registered: 07-05-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:30am
If you were both 12 I would definitely say that he likes you. But since he's 25 - even if he does like you - he's either immature or an idiot.

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