20 years

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Registered: 06-30-2011
20 years
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Wed, 08-17-2011 - 6:16pm

We met when I was 17 and he was 19.

We met again when I was 18 and he was 20. We were together from November to February.

He broke up with me on Valentines. I found out I was pregnant a week later. He was already with someone else.

A little after our daughter was born he got married...I didnt know about it. and left for 3 years.

He came back after his divorce. And got to know our daughter at that point...in more of an uncle capacity. By his choice.

He has been married one other time, and also that ended in divorce and had a long term relationship of 7 years as well.

Last year in November, he stopped by to see our daughter. Now 17. She wasnt home and we talked for a while.

Which led to a date. and then quietly seeing each other until February. When for the second time he broke things off on Valentines.

I told him not to contact me anymore. He could communicate through our daughter. It broke something inside me, and I moved on. I think I had held a flame for him all those years. Never really moving on.

He contacted me about a month ago. And asked me to please re-open communication with him. That he had made a horrible mistake. That he missed me. had been scared and an ass, and had pushed me away stupidly.

We talked for a week and he asked me if I would go on a date with him.

I told him I'd think about it.

We're still talking. Things are good. I havent given him answer yet. I did tell him, it would take an incredible amount of effort and time

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In reply to: blakbyrd74
Thu, 08-18-2011 - 2:15am
He has broken your heart twice? And you are asking what should you do?!!! Get therapy whether you go back to him or not. I wonder about the character of a person if they were not involved in their child after 17 years. So my comment about therapy is mainly because you even THINK of considering to get back with him. Mark
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Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: blakbyrd74
Thu, 08-18-2011 - 6:53pm

The definition if "madness" is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result.

You have a rough history with him. You would be giving yourself a FAR better chance at happiness if you were to choose a man who didn't have a history of breaking your heart too many times.

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Registered: 06-30-2011
In reply to: blakbyrd74
Fri, 08-19-2011 - 1:07am

thank you for your honest responses. I tell myself the same constantly. No worries..