6 Years & Confused
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|Thu, 03-19-2009 - 1:17pm|
I've been dating my boyfriend for just over 6 years. We started dating when I was 16 & him 18 I know that people (especially during this period in their lives) change. About 2 years ago I tried to take a break from the relationship to evaluate how I felt. However I felt so awful about it that it didn't last longer than a day. I keep getting that feeling over those 2 years but I've just repressed it because I didn't want to deal with it. Now, I can't shake the feeling at all.
We definitely have some problems in our relationship which don't seem to ever get resolved. I'm a very motivated person & my boyfriend is not quite as motivated. He has very vague plans for the future, while I have specific goals. We also seem to have a communication problem since he refuses to talk to me about job or financial problems. He'll hint at stuff but tells me not to worry about it which drives me nuts! He also doesn't feel its necessary to talk about financial or job problems since we are not living together. I don't understand why he doesn't feel he can share his problems with me, as I always share mine. I understand that we are not living together so it's not crucial but I'm worried that he won't be able to communicate these problems with me later.
Another problem is free time. We only see each other twice a week so I want to make the best of our time. However, he would prefer to stay at home & watch a movie while I want to go out- even if it's hiking, etc. I feel like I am compromising more than him & I'm getting frustrated. And we have discussed all of these issues numerous times but they never get resolved.
He's positive that I am the one for him while I am really unsure at this point. I don't want to stay in the relationship just because it's comfortable but I'm scared that if I leave him that I am going to regret it. How should I know what the right decision is?
Any advice?? Thanks!!