Age difference in relationship

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Registered: 04-01-2012
Age difference in relationship
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 2:28pm

I'm 44 years old single male and I have a crush on a 24 year old girl. And I think she likes me too. I'm just very concerned with the age difference. What do you think? Is 20 years too much?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 3:20pm

Well if she likes you, then it's not too much--my best friend married a guy who was 26 yrs older than she was--she was in her early 20's at the time.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Fri, 04-13-2012 - 12:09pm
Do you want to have children? Although she may say she doesn't now, that might not be the case ten years from now, KWIM? How do you know her?


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Registered: 11-14-2008
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 1:36pm

I think it can work, depending on the two individuals and their relationship goals. The first step would be to ask her out and see if the interest you percieve she has for you is real. Sure beats wondering "what might have been" a few years down the road! :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 3:39pm
Personally, I don't see it working out. The age difference is just too great, most likely she's still in party girl mode and isn't wanting to settle down. What types of vibes are you getting from her? Are either of you looking for a serious relationship?


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Registered: 04-11-2012
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 8:49am

Personally I think you should walk away before it turns ugly. 20 years is

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Registered: 02-09-2012
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 1:36pm
I honestly think this is a matter of maturity and not age. I'm 21 and my boyfriend will be 30 soon, granted thats not as big of a age difference but we've found that its working just fine. It is something a little strange for me when we are surrounded by all of his friends who are different stages in their lives (getting married, having kids, etc) but for the most part we don't even notice the difference. To with your gut! Sometimes there will be things that you can't relate to with each other because of the difference, but I look at it as a learning experience. I love that he knows all about things that happened before my time and I like being able to keep him "up" with some of the new things going on.