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| Thu, 04-21-2005 - 1:05pm |
Hi all I have a quick question.
I have known this guy for a couple of years now but never really talked to him much up until 8 mnths ago. I am very close to my daughters grandma (my ex's mom, yeah weird but she is my bf)well I hang out there all the time and her brothers friend always hangs out there too. FOr the past 8 months weve been hanging out and we have developed a great friendship. We are so much alike it's crazy. So I am kindof crushing over him right now, see I wasn't really attracted to him but after I got to know him his personality made him seem attractive to me now and he's all around good guy. Well my daughters grandma told me she thinks he starting to have a crush on me. But I never told anyone that I have a crush on him. So I kindof blew it off.
My main problem is our age I am 25 and he is 35 going to be 36. And I have never dated an older man. Do you think that age diffrence is bad?
I want to keep things the way they are but I'm worried if it becomes more than friends down the line, because I have been hurt sooooo many times. But the men I dated in the past were my age or younger. I have never dated such an older man before. But I was told that dating someone older could be better for me. I just need some advice.
Thanks
-Michelle

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Thanks alot Becky, you have been a great help. My last relationship was so hot and heavy and everything was rushed so fast with us that it finally fizzeled 5 mnths after it started. And I told my self that the next one I will take at a slower pace. I learned alot from my last relationship.
Thanks for all your help.
-Michelle
Michelle,
I have been following your story with great interest - what a love story! This guy sounds great, sounds like he's into you, and you're into him - it's great that you are not rushing things, but I do hope you kiss him soon - I'm on the edge of my seat!
Keep posting updates and very best wishes!
Coolas
Michelle...hugs to you and welcome back under a new name.
Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?
Awww!! Thankyou so much , you made me smile! LOL!!!
Yes you are right I was NOT looking for a relationship at all, and it hit me like a ton of bricks. Him and I have had such a nice friendship for the past 8 mnths and then one day boom it hit me. I am not quite sure if I am ready for a relationship right now but I am going to take this slow as friends and sees what becomes of it.
The move and my dd dad is enough for me right now. But I am going to continue to see Andy and develop our friendship more and after the move and stuff maybe we can start dating. I don't know but only time will tell.
Thanks so much!
-Michelle
lol!!! you just made me crack up! yeah if things work out this would be a great story to tell years down the line. And believe me if anything happens you all will know right away. LOL!!!!
Thanks so much!
-Michelle
Thanks for your reply. I am well known for being emotionally detached and that's why I found the FWB thing conveient. I really like being around him. I am not sure if you read through the other post or not but a couple of days ago I was so stressed about my move and my dd dad and stuff. Well yesturday I met my dd dad's new girlfriend and it went really well, she was really nice and I explained to her about how close I am to the family and how his mom took me in when I was 15 yrs old and how she is a mother figure to me and I told her that she will be seeing alot of me but not to worry cause I am no threat. And she understands completely cause she has a 5 1/2 yr old son and her ds dad is involed in her son's life. So I was so happy cause a HUGE weight got lifted off my chest and yesturday was the first day my dd met her too and I was really concerned how she would react to her dad having a girlfriend but my dd took it great. So overall yesturday was a good day.
Well when I left my dd dads house, I went up to my dd grandma's house and I was hoping that Andy would be up there cause I wanted to tell him how great it went meeting my dd dad's new girlfriend. But he wasn't up there. Yesturday my dd dad gave me his cell phone to keep and he agreed to pay half of the bill each month. So as I was going through the phone numbers and deleting them I ran across Andy's phone #.( See I didn't have a phone for awhile and I never asked or new his phone #)
Well I keeped it in the phone. And I called him and was messing with him on the phone and making my voice sound diffrent and he was like who is this and I started laughing like it's me , Raul (dd dad) gave me his cell phone and I was going through it and I came across your number, and he started laughing. Then he called me back a half hour later and he played the same trick on me that I did to him and then he started laughing.
When I was talking to him I had to tell him how the meet with my dd dad's new girlfriend, and he was so interested in it, and we laughed and giggled and it went PERFECT.
Well this morning he called me at 7:30 am and I ansewred and he was like what are you doing and I was like watching the news and he was getting ready to leave for work. So we talked for a little bit and we hung up.
Well Since that call I rec'ved this morning I am literally GLOWING.
That's a really good sign that he called me this morning, right? It shows that he was thinking about me, right?
Sorry so long I am on cloud nine. But I am still going to move slowly on the intimate and relationship thing, because I want our friendship to grow stronger and beleive me it is.
Thanks
-Michelle
Good for you! I'm smiling for you! Sounds like you've got yourself a good guy! Enjoy! And keep keeping us posted, I'm loving this story!
Coolas
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