almost divorced now we're back together?

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Registered: 12-14-2009
almost divorced now we're back together?
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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 9:49pm
me and my husband are high school sweethearts. we got pregnant our senoir year and got married after our daughter turned one. he then joined the military. got sent to germany(
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Registered: 10-03-2007
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 6:37am
I would suggest you to continue with your divorce plans.There are lots of red flags and a messed up situation but you really need to be single for a while to figure out what you really want.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 9:31am

Unfortunately it seems like your marriage is beyond repair at this point. You both lost a lot of your "young adulthood" by having a kid, getting married at a young age, cheating, and now you having another kid by someone else. His lack of commitment and constant cheating, plus dragging his feet shows that he doesn't know what he wants, and he's trying to live his "young adulthood" without consquences.

I would highly agree that you go ahead with your divorce plans and stay single for a good while. You need to also get custody and child support established for BOTH of your children as well. You both need time to establish yourself as young adults and to get on your feet. Sounds like you are ready to go, but are confused by his actions. I personally would not waste anymore time staying married to him as it's not worth it anymore.