Am i becoming the other woman?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2005
Am i becoming the other woman?
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Wed, 10-05-2005 - 9:51pm
What would you think if a guy started asking you out to dinner and treated you everytime? The catch is that you once had a "friends with benefits" thing which ended rather quickly. However, we were able to remain friends but not extremely close friends. Our FWB phase was also very low-key and we were never seen in public. This might sound like a good thing, b/c maybe he wants to give real dating a try...but another catch is he's also got a gf now. They met during the summer and have only been "official" for 2 months. We didn't hang out during the whole summer b/c i away on vacation and he was obviously hanging out with this girl. i dont know if he's told her that we've gone out to dinner, and he hardly mentions her to me. if we were just friends wouldn't he feel comfortable telling me about his love life? he also works full time and he's asked me a couple times to have dinner and drinks with him after he's done for the day. why would he want to do a one-on-one dinner on more than one occasion when we have other friends around town? and wouldn't you want to see your significant other after a full day of work? i don't know what to think of this and i definitely don't want to become some kind of home wrecker that breaks up a relationship. i'm thinking he's not too serious with his gf yet and since we haven't seen each other in awhile he might want to see what happens with us? any thoughts would be really appreciated b/c i'm one confused girl!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 9:55am
He probably does really consider you someone to hang out with. I think the reason he is reluctant to tell his G/F about you is becasue it just wouldn't sound right. I mean I know that if my B/F was like how he is friends with a girl thathe used to kind of hook up with I would hit the roof and be like what kind of friendship was that?! I don't think he is trying to have his cake and eat it too because he isn't physical with you anymore. Your relationship is purely platonic and so he sees nothing wrong with it. The problem I see here is that you do like him and are looking into this a little much. Well that's my opinion....Best wishes!