Am I being naive? Is he interested? or just wanting to do his "Christian duty"?

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Am I being naive? Is he interested? or just wanting to do his "Christian duty"?
Fri, 05-24-2013 - 2:11pm

I dont mean to be sounding dumb here.  Is he interested?  Im getting some mixed opinions.

Am I being naive?  Is he interested? or just wanting to do his "Christian duty"?

Ive reconnected w/someone from years ago.  He IS very Christian & he knows Ive been going thru some very tough times lately.   He's listened to a lot Ive said & Ive listed to a good bit of his.  Ive seen him a couple times.   The last time he gave me a VERY wonderful long hug - but then Id just lost my mom.   

We have flurries of texts & emails here & there.  

He has made remarks such as that we seem to have been similar things and he wants to be a good soundboard & can be a good person to talk to.   Last time I saw him (w/the big long hug), he said he'd talk to me soon.

I dont want to sound like an idiot - if he's truly just wanting to "help me thru" my hard times & be a soundingboard & a good Christian.

IS he wanting more, do you think?  (as I am, of course)

Mixed reviews from my friends - some say he himself is probably trying to figure out what I want - at the same time that Im trying to figure HIM out.....

And then -

It's been soooooo long.   :)

How do you go about a first kiss?    He doesnt seem the tongue type - at least at first.    Does everyone get to tongue?    Id been married 20+ years til recently - but suddenly I dont know what to do - or maybe it's just psychological or Im analyzing it too much.  Would it just come naturally?   Feel like a preteen!!!  

And how do you deal w/the "who pays?" thing.   :)