am i being selfish?

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Registered: 09-18-2005
am i being selfish?
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 10:10pm
before me and my bf started dating we were best friends and hung out all the time. then we started to date and everyone keeps telling me we arent together because we want to be but only because we spent so much time together. i thought all that mattered was us being happy *which we are!* but all this talk is makin me think!! what do you guys think??
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 11:03pm

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Registered: 09-18-2005
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 11:06am
what i meant is, am i being selfish in the way of stayin with him when im questioning things. hope that clears it up, sorry if i didnt mean to confuse anyone
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 11:17am
If your beginning to question things because of what others say, then stay away from them. If your happy and know you both enjoy each other doesn't matter what they think. Heck I lots of long term friends but if we began dating then there is something there for us to begin dating and it is much more then a friendship or us being use to being around each other because that would fade.
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Registered: 09-15-2005
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 3:00pm

As strange and unusual as this thing I'm about to tell you is....it is true.

Two people I know, have been best friends for 5 years. Then, he asked her to marry her. She said yes. In an instant they went from best friends to being engaged. They are still married.

Don't allow others to choose for you. If you feel happy with him, in love, and things are good, there is nothing better in this world, than being in love with your best friend. And being best friends first, even better.

BTW, most couples, who are "good friends" tend to hang out together all the time. It's the most natural thing to do.

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 3:40pm

What do I think?

I think, why in the world are you listening to these twits of negativity instead of believing what you see with your own eyes and know with your own heart? And then I think, what kind of lousey people in your life are such downers that they have to try and suck the happiness you have out of you? And then I start to think that I wonder what benefit it is to these twits of negativity to keep you from your happiness...what do they get out of your misery?

That's what I think.

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Registered: 09-18-2005
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 10:33am
thanks all. its true... if im happy - screw them. =)