Am I grasping at straws?
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|Tue, 04-13-2010 - 4:23pm|
So I was dating a guy last summer for about 4 months. He was recently divorced, I was in process of divorce. He has 3 children, I have 4. He broke up with me 4 days after my divorce was finalized, claiming he was unstable, and I was unstable, and it just wasn't going to work out.
He apparently went back with his EX for awhile, and I too, tried to work out things with my EX. Neither really worked out.
Anyways, we started talking again the middle of Feb, with the understanding that neither of us, was in a place for a relationship, nor did we want one. Basically agreed to be FWBs.
Here we are 2 months later, we talk/text almost daily, he lives in another town, and a couple of weeks ago, he came to town to see me, unannounced, and I didn't have my phone with me, so I didn't know until the next day.
We have gotten along so incredibly well over the last couple months. When we were dating, he would not answer texts, calls, and be out of contact for a couple days, and never offer an explanation, not alone an apology....now, he answers almost immediately, and pretty much gives me a daily itinerary of his plans, or tells of what he did before.
About a month ago, I mentioned how we got along so well, and he said he didn't want to hurt my feelings, but didn't want a relationship. I barely talked to him over the next few days, and he told me later in the week, he was working stuff out with his EX again. I completely gave him space and didn't contact him for a week. He then text me, told me it didn't work out and he was done trying with her, and things picked up again where they left off. We have only been together on 2 occasions in the last 2 months and plan to hang out again later this week.
The last couple of weeks he has acted like he is interested in my life, and what I am doing, and as I said, almost always answers msgs or calls, or apologizes, and gives explanation why he didn't respond immediately.
I really really like this guy, and am trying to give him the space he needs. Am I reading more into his behavior than what there is? Is it possible we really are just better as friends w benefits? I will be so devastated if he starts dating someone, which he claims he has no desire to do.