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| Tue, 10-11-2005 - 6:02pm |
Hiya, i'm new to the board, but I just thought I'd write in and see what other people thought about this-
I started going out with a guy last week, but I can't work out whether or not it's just because he's liked me for so long and i'm bored of being single or whether I actually like him.
One of my friends said to me 'we need to get you a boyfriend' and i was like why? and he said that i was missing out, and from the look of relationships around me I didn't really think I'd want to be in a relationship. Last time I was in a relationship was a couple of years ago, and I was only about 15, probably going out with someone back then for the same reason that I just felt I should.
But what is all this about needing to be with someone? I don't think I even like the guy I'm going out with, but no one else can find fault with him. He's not bad looking or anything but at the same time I always felt that he'd be a bit boring for me, but i thought that i might as well go out with him to see how it goes, and i told him this, but he just seems to ignore that and go right in for the mushy stuff.. for instance when I went out to work to do mega overtime in a day, he text me when i got home, and i said how tired i was and that i was gonna go 2 bed, n he text me back saying he wished he could snuggle up with me, and the thought of it immediately repulsed me.
I mean, I'm a gay guy and I know I like guys, but at the moment I just don't seem interested, or maybe it's the fact that the right guys haven't been coming my way.
I really don't know what to do at the moment. should i dump him and be done with it, or make do and see if it gets any better? knowing my luck he wouldn't leave it alone if i did dump him, he'd probably pester me and tell me i didn't give it enough time. but do original sparks actually need time?
can people please tell me what they think of all this?
thankyou

I think that if the thought of snuggling up next to him repluses you, then you're with the wrong guy LOL. In my experience, when you're with the right person, the feeling of wanting to be together is quite overwhelming. And being repulsed is not on the agenda ;-)
There is no hurry to be in a relationship. And even if everyone else is in relationships, it doesn't mean that you have to be.
Just give it time, and when you're ready - the right guy will come along.
I totally agree with iv.
I think it's great that you're examining how you feel and questioning your motives for dating this guy and I think you're right about them, it sounds like you're letting the peer pressure get to you. Don't.
When you find a guy you like it wont feel the way this does to you. maybe you aren't ready for a relationship period right now. That's okay. You've got plenty of time.
If you dump the guy and he harases you do your best to just ignore it. Don't let him guilt you into "one more chance" or giving it "a little more time". You know how you feel; you've thought it through; and you shouldn't let him, or anyone, manipulate you into doing something you don't want to.