Amusing gym instructor

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Registered: 01-26-2013
Amusing gym instructor
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Sat, 01-26-2013 - 6:08pm

Hi, 

I am an avid gym goer, wherever in the world I am I go to the gym, daily, unless I am dying. Love to do the cardio machines, weights, group classes, spin, yoga, zumba, what have you - its my endorphin fix and I have to get it. Also the sauna and stuff is the little treat I give myself for working so hard. Alright that said, it now comes down to this one trainer who I realized pays attention to me. He is subtle, that I hand him, but he sure looks out for me, searches me out in the gym and either works out around where I am, or does his personal training lessons close to wherever in the gym I am working out. I am highly amused. We women know when a man notices us. He is younger than I am, he is cute, and I wonder why at all he has any fascination me whatsoever. I am married, my husband is with me at the gym at least 50% of times, we sometimes workout together, talk to each other, help each other out - so its obvious we are together. But our dear gym instructor persists with his amusing ways of staying in my vicinity, hanging around, stealing glances, making it obvious, and making me a bit conscious now. What amuses me is that not only am I older, I am very plain!! I am not exactly out of shape - but I am not the shapeliest, slimmest, best looking body in the gym - there are so many younger, prettier girls. But unmistakably, he is right on target everytime. So much so, when I enter, other gym instructors - his friends - start smiling at him and make it even more obvious. I like the attention, I just shrug and smile at all this, I find it a flattering that such a fine man finds me intriguing. There was this time he was doing his pull ups - he is very muscular - he was waiting to make sure he was in my field of vision and then with a direct eye contact he went on to workout - looking marvellous off course. I shook my head (in my mind). Such an obvious display of manhood (show off)... I wanted to get up and applaud. I know a bit about animal mating rituals, the peacock shows off his lovely feathers to the pea-hen and dances around her to impress her :-). Here was one pretty peacock, unfurling his beautiful brawn. I know a bit about psychology, I am a physician and I am 40 and I am highly tickled that a man as beautiful, fit and young as him, manages to waste his attention on an uninterested, married, older but highly amused woman as me. What I like even more is that he is shy and always keeps a respectful distance, never makes unnecessary eye contact and is subtle. He knows I realize he notices me, so now its become a game, one he and I both enjoy without doing or wanting to do anything more about it. Amazing human behavior. 

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Registered: 09-15-2007
Sat, 02-02-2013 - 1:57am
He is a beautiful work of art. I would feel someone should notice me if I worked so hard on my body. :-)
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Registered: 09-15-2007
Sat, 02-02-2013 - 1:55am
A bet huh - about the fact I notice him... hmm. Funny funny. :-)
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Registered: 08-08-2012
Mon, 01-28-2013 - 2:08pm

I read our post and and sounds a lot like some guys that do this kind of stuff, especially if they think a lot of themselves.

Just that you "notice" him even in an not sexual way gives him the gratification that "all women" find him appealing and it validates all the work he does on his body.

The fact that you are unattainable and that your husband is there with you half the time, probably gives him that added rush.

I sometimes notice exceptionally well built guys, but to me it is with an artistic eye, not that I would ever trade my husband for someone who is more centered on themselves then their partner, but because they are a beautiful work of art that is good to look at, and then move on.

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Registered: 08-09-2012
Sun, 01-27-2013 - 5:55pm

Amusing...  although I wouldn't doubt that his boys have a bet going on with him about you and who is going to do what first--and that's why they giggle whenever you two are in the same room.