Are we even together?
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| Fri, 09-30-2005 - 4:43pm |
I was in a dead end relationship (he's a really nice guy, up for grabs in the Houston area - just didn't really understand me) when I met the perfect man. He happens to be here on a 5 mo business trip though, from Russia. We started seeing each other and really "get" each other- more than any American I've been with. He says I'm a better match for him than many Russian women too, and we share a lot of inside jokes, have had a couple weekend getaways. When we're together the conversation never ceases, we laugh a lot, we have fun.
Unfortunately, this guy is SUPERHOT (resembles Gael Garcia Bernal) and has definitely been a player. He travels a lot for work and pleasure, but wants to settle down eventually (in 1-2 years), build a house, get married, and have 3 kids. What in the world is a guy who can get any girl he wants and has been with supermodels doing with me? I am definitely not a supermodel by any stretch of the imagination.
He wanted to see me the night before he left for Russia, and I was in the midst of looking for a new apt to move out into- breaking up with the other guy. Wasn't fair to him to have me stay and take up his space... Bad Me was still living with the other guy when all this was going on... I lived there mostly at guy #1's urging and a matter of convinience- he's really "nice" just not for me. The Russian suggested I stay at his place as long as I want- until he leaves for good in December. I'm staying there now by myself. He comes back from Russia in 2 weeks, and I'm a little scared of living with him. I think it might kill the suspense of our relationship- especially since I'm single now. Also, I am aware that his feelings may change after visiting there.
I'm wondering what the situation will be like when he comes back. We were never really officially titled, especially since I had another "boyfriend", plus it's not like he's going to stay here, his Visa's gonna expire. The suspense is great.
The title: are we even together? And we're already living together... (more like staying there)..

It sounds like he thinks of you as a fun companion for the time he's spending in your area.
I would not read any more into it than that. I'm sure you've considered the possibility (likelihood?) that he has someone he spends time with everywhere he stays.
Sheri
Hi mostlyfun, that sounds interesting. I would like to hear more about the details of your travelling/surfing/partying guy, if you would like to share. How long have you known each other, how did you meet... and what is he like?
This guy I know has definitely been a player, and may still be- when I defined the word for him, he agreed with me that he was. He says he normally gets bored with a girl in <1 month, and hasn't met anyone yet that he would like to know the rest of his life. But my belief is that everyone's a player until they meet the one they like. The best attitude to have is to not bet too much on one guy and just let things happen as they will.
Thanks for relating, and I hope you can tame your surferboy!