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are we meant to be?
| Thu, 12-15-2005 - 12:37am |
My guy and I decided that we needed to go on a break. He told me that he most likely isn't going to find anyone else that is going to treat him better than I did and he said he does care for me but he doesn't know if its enough to stay together. We have only been on this break since December 13 and he has already kissed another girl. I mean I guess he is trying to figure out about us, but I didn't expect him to be already kissing another girl. They both said that they aren't looking for anything. She also just ended a serious relationship. Do I continue to let him go on this way, because we are on a break, or what? I'm just really confused and hurt. Should I just see what happens and see what he says when the break is over? Which it ends on Christmas Eve. Help is greatly wanted!! Thanks for the help!!
Edited 12/15/2005 3:01 pm ET by sara0326
Edited 12/15/2005 3:01 pm ET by sara0326

It sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too - he wants to have some fun but keep you around for when he's done and wants to settle down. This is disrespectful to you, when people break up it should be with the expectation that it's over, you can't mess people around like that. If he really loved or cared about you, he wouldn't want to risk losing you by being with other women while you're "on a break" and expect you to just hang around and be okay with that until he's done.
I know you have feelings for him so this might sound harsh but I think you should have the self respect to tell him you're not going to wait around for him while he messes around with other women, you deserve better then that. I don't know how long you've been together but if he's not sure he loves you enough to stay with you, dating other women isn't going to help him decide about his feelings for you and so he's never going to love you as much as you deserve to be loved.
Genealogical Musings
Ugh this is a tough one. I agree with the other poster that you deserve someone who gives you 100% and this situation is certainly not ideal nor healthy.
However, I have always held the belief that life is messy and decisions are not always black and white. The real world is not picture perfect. People make mistakes and people sometimes need to see what else is out there to confirm that what they have is what they want.
The bottom line is that you have to do what's best for you. If this break is causing you much pain, then you should let him know and see whether he's willing to lose you to keep this break going.