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baby making drama
| Mon, 11-28-2005 - 10:36pm |
Please please please help me. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 4 years on and off I am 19 years old. I was 15 when we 1st got together. We have been together solidly for a year now. My partner really wants me to have his baby, and I really want to as well. Trouble is we have been trying now for a year with no luck at all.. I find it really depressing when I see kids now, I feel like I am gonna cry I mean really what is the point of me being alive if I cant reproduce. I have told my partner how I feel but he just says keep trying, but he doesnt understand how it feels to be the woman in this relationship I feel like I am responsible, especially due to the fact that he already has a child. (Who by the way lives a few doors away- therfore even more depressing). I cant go to the doctors coz they will probably laugh as they will see me as too young. Now he has gone to prison, he will be there for at least another 6 months so I will not be able to try during this time. So I do not know whether or not I am infertile. It deeply saddens me because thats all I want in life is to be able to start a family, I dont want no big car no mansion i dont even wanna be rich all I want is to have his baby. At first I thought it was gonna be sooo easy but it is turning into a nightmare. And to make it worse 99.9% of my friends have babys so when I see them I cant help but feel jealous, what am I gonna do. If you have any advice please reply asap. thanks.

Marie
BlueBerry,
Again, I see red flags all over the place. When I was 19 I hated hearing about how my age was a factor. At your age you really should be exactly that, your age. You have lot's of time to have kids one day. Even if it is next year..........you will still only be 20 years old and that is still just fine.
Have you considered once that maybe you aren't getting pregnant, because it isn't what life has in store for you right now? It appears by what I am reading that life has bigger and better things in store for you. Don't rush or push something that isn't to be RIGHT NOW. That doesn't mean that it can't happen in the future.
I really suggest that you enjoy being YOUNG, because once you are a mother you will be a mother for the rest of your life. Which is a joyous thing, but you have this time to yourself just this once. Grab on to it and do things you have always wanted to do. Enjoy being you and learning who you are. You won't be a good teacher to your child if you didn't experience all the things you wanted to experience.
It seems to be life has more to show you before you become a Mother. Why don't you just put off the "baby making drama" for a bit and just open your arms to what life is offering up right now. JUST BE YOU FOR AWHILE AND ENJOY THIS TIME!!!
Best Wishes & Happy New Year,
AprilShowers