To be with me or not to be with me...

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Registered: 07-28-2004
To be with me or not to be with me...
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Thu, 11-03-2005 - 6:48pm
I have been with this guy for two years. We broke up once because he said I wasn't experienced enough for him(he was my first). I took him back. Now he says that he doesn't know whether he wants to be with me or not. I love him, and would do anything for him, but I don't know how much more beating up my heart can take. I don't know what to do.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 8:27pm

>> would do anything for him<<

Perhaps this is part of the problem? Guys like women who have self confidence and self worth. If he can treat you as a doormat and you still come back for more - he will have absolutely no respect for you.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Fri, 11-04-2005 - 8:17am

It sounds like you're forgetting that you have power in this relationship, too. If you don't like the way you're being treated and you've rationally come to this conclusion, you don't have to be in the relationship.

I've said this before on other posts, but I have to repeat myself. I know it's not easy but you have to make the decision. Don't you really want to be with someone that is certain he wants to be with you, too? There really can be more to a relationship than worrying and wondering all the time. This is how he keeps you in check, by making you doubt your own feelings and securities. At the risk of sounding like Oprah or something, it's time to take your power back and strive for a relationship that's equal.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Fri, 11-04-2005 - 9:44am
I know that at times we stick out relationships that are very unhealthy b/c God knows I have. If he is hurting you or making you cry then you need to draw the line somewhere. If you decide that you can't take it anymore know that you will be okay. I finally walked away from an emotional roller caoster of my own. YES, it is VERY hard but little by little your heart will be better and you will gain your confidence again. You have to give yourself repsect b/c if you don't know one else will. The problem I seemed to have was breaking the cycle which seems to be a similar problem that you have. Good luck!