Best Friend Being Strung Along????

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Registered: 02-27-2007
Best Friend Being Strung Along????
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Sun, 05-02-2010 - 5:32am
My Best Friend has been chatting/msn to a guy in another country for the last year and half, the first year he was with his girlfriend (first love) of 5 years and the last 6 months he's been 'single'. BF and the guy have since had indirect conversations with my BF confessing how in love she is with him and that she'd even move to the country he lives in to give it a go, starting with her visiting him this year sometime. He has never reciprocated the same feelings directly but has talked to her very intimately and for long amounts of times over the time they have known each other, giving my friend the impression he really likes her. Last week she came across his face book page and a post indicating something about his girlfriend and that his relationship status says he is still in a relationship with his ex. BF was upset and got the nerve up to ask him where she stands. He says he wants to give his ex a chance to prove she is a good person and that he won't know if he and BF could be together, that they'd have to wait and see. BF asks if he wants her to wait - he says, its up to her. MY BF is so wanting to give this a go. I haven't had a good vibe the whole time, he seems to me to be stringing her along enjoying her attention while he is still involved with his ex. She wants to wait and see what happens!!! Saying it's worth the wait? What do I do, let her work things out herself - as I feel like that's what she'll do anyway?
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Registered: 04-10-2010
Sun, 05-02-2010 - 7:26am

It may not be as stupid as it looks. Perhaps for some reason she wants to hide out in this pretend almost relationship rather than deal in the real world of going out with guys.


When my friends are being ridiculous and driving me nuts, I try to keep them at a distance I can stand them at, and

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Registered: 02-27-2007
Tue, 05-04-2010 - 3:47am
That sounds right - she had given up on meeting guys (not online) some time last year and then struck up this 'relationship' with this guy.
I think I will indeed stay at a distance that I will not be dragged into discussions involving this guy, keep myself sane! And yes, it is endless analysing over what was said and when etc etc!!
Oh thanks for that - my brain was starting to feel fried!
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Registered: 09-18-2009
Tue, 05-04-2010 - 6:58pm
Her drama, her life.