Best Friend or more?

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Registered: 10-19-2009
Best Friend or more?
Mon, 05-24-2010 - 11:18am


I have an amazing guy friend that I have become very close to this year, however his girlfriend is my best girlfriend. Which is great- I have never thought about him like that, untill yesterday.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 05-24-2010 - 12:00pm

I don't get anything from his message that indicates he likes you as more than a good friend. It is clear that he cares about you and appreciates you, but care and appreciation aren't intrinsically linked to romantic feelings. I have male friends with whom I'd say these kinds of things.

It sounds like you're a bit confused over your feelings for him - Maybe you should take a step back from the friendship to reevaluate your feelings. He and his girlfriend may not be doing so well but he's not a single guy, and it would be unreasonable to think that getting together with him wouldn't have serious consequences regarding his girlfriend.

Try to stop thinking of him as a romantic possibility... I know that's hard

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 9:35am
It sounds like he just wants to thank you for being a good friend - nothing more. Being close with your best friend's boyfriend can be tricky. It sounds like you could have 'more than a friend' feelings for him?