Best Relationship Advice I Ever Got..

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Registered: 02-16-2005
Best Relationship Advice I Ever Got..
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 12:45pm

Okay guys and gals here is the best advice I was ever given regarding relationships (it came from a male co-worker who works as an attorney / mayor).

"If men and women would realize they were more alike than different then relationships would work out a lot better". meaning: men and women both think, feel, and need the same thing. How women think and feel and what they need / want is pretty much what men want too.

I for one took his advice to heart and have noticed a big change (for the better) in my current "relationship", Although Im not too sure what we are classified as yet, but we are getting a long much better than before.

pass on this advice

anna

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 1:57pm
This is true.. when you treat each other as people things tend to work better. Thanks for sharing.

Marie

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 2:11pm

That's funny, I figured that out at some point and my relationships got a LOT better too. Well, accept with the Anti-Christ but he shouldn't count because he acted more like a 14-year-old girl then a man and NO ONE can relate to 14-year-old girls unless they are a 14-year-old gril. Kidding:)

Yeah I was just talking about this on another board. All people have two basic driving emotions: fear and pleasure. If you can figure out what people are afraid of and what brings them pleasure you can pretty much figure anyone out even psychopaths and sociopaths.

All animals are motivated by those two core emotions at a primal level. Every single action any animal every takes is driven by it's desire to avoid or destroy that which they fear or in the hopes of attaining that which brings them pleasure.

Sometimes those things may be out of wack with what is "normal" or very different from what we personally fear or enjoy; but, if you can get to know a person well enough to understand those two things, well then they become pretty darn easy to understand.

Make si t a whole lot easier to solve relationship isuses to, you just have to dig until you find the fear or pleassure motivating the undesirable behavior and eliminate or at least understand what the real motivation is.

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Registered: 02-16-2005
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 4:17pm

I completely agree with you. We are just use to the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" concept. Males and females seem to think that we are both from opposite planets.

anna