Boss attracted to employee!!!

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Registered: 06-16-2005
Boss attracted to employee!!!
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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 1:32pm
So a friend (which happens to be an employee of mine) has caught my eye. Funny thing is we stay up till all hours off the night discussing stuff & I had a great time doing it.
The friendship hit a standstill one night when he reached over & kissed me. I was startled at first because I honestly hadn't expected it. Growing up I had always been marked as "ONE OF THE GUYS" so to hang out with this person was just what I did. After a moment of him saying he was an ass for doing it we started kissing again.Did I forget to mention that we had been drinking & I had asked him if he was doing this because he had been drinking. He said I was asking the wrong question. Which my reply was what is the right question? When we parted (with a kiss) everything seemed cool. Now the next day at work, things were a little strange, he sorta avoided me. I mean not total avoid but different. I haven't even talked to him about this, or hinted towards it. Now for a bit I was worried that our friendship would suffer. But that is starting to build again. What I want to know is why it hasn't gone farther, why isn't it being said? Did I do something wrong. Will we ever have what we did? Its all so very confussing. Thanks for reading any advice would help.
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Mon, 06-20-2005 - 1:28am
What happened was between two consenting adults, like a one night stand. Both parties wanted to kiss and such and you did, you both enjoyed it and nothing more was expected from either one. There was no agreement to call the day after or to talk or continue were you left off. It happened and that's all. There nothing to talk about. You're an adult and so is the other party, you enjoyed a few kisses and leave at that. It is also possible that the other party doesn't want to pursue more, in part because you work together and maybe because you both were drinking that night.
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Registered: 04-16-2005
Mon, 06-20-2005 - 12:54pm

I agree with Cruise. You probably shouldn't read anymore or expect anything more out of what happened. It sounds as if you wouldn't mind if the two of you could continue things where they left off... however - it does take two to tango. So if he is not receptive of the idea, and since he appears fine to avoid the topic all together.. than that's it. Leave it alone. Move on and find someone who is on the same page that you are on.

Jazzy.