Breaks up, the, calls and emails
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| Thu, 11-17-2005 - 4:04pm |
HI Folks,
So my guy broke up with me last night. We've been at that "should we shouldn't we have a relationship" stage for a couple months. I can tell he cares about me and likes me a great deal. He decided we shouldn't continue sexually. We get along just swimmingly and his stated reasons were that we work together occasionally, and he is my senior at work. It isn't against the work place's policy, it is a moral issue for him he will be asked to evaluate me sometimes. I was level headed and not emotional with him about it, accepted his decision without a fuss and wished him well.
Today he's emailed twice, first thing in the morning and he used his pet name for me, then 2 hours later to invite me over with friends for thanks giving. I didn't reply. I was busy at work and just felt I needed a little space. So at 12 noon on the nose he calls and makes sure I got the invitation to thanksgiving dinner. He asked how I was doing, I said okay and told him about some good unrelated news I had. I asked how he was and he said he was sad. :( . I told him chin up, let's try this for a while then talk about it.
So why does this guy go from Mr.All-Businiess to Mr. Needy so fast? I thought women were supposed to be the moody ones!

Hey Uber,
Seems he doesn't want a relationship, but still wants the closeness and comfort of a "girlfriend" figure.
I've done it myself ... but just don't understand how we women let our hearts be broken and then turn around and say "OK" when the guy throws out a tidbit. I guess we always think that things will change....
Just one woman's opinion (that I hope would save you years of heartache) ... say no. No to the Thanksgiving invite, no to the pet names, etc. If he truly values you, he will realize what he's lost, and come back with greater value and respect for you. Otherwise you just flounder around in his confused world for a very long time.
laurel ")