broke up, but no chance to miss him
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| Fri, 09-30-2005 - 2:16pm |
Hi all, could use some advice here on the intentions of my now ex-boyfriend. 5 days ago, we had a fight...I said something, he misunderstood me, it made him mad, and he blurted out that maybe we should just be friends. I asked him if that was really what he wanted, and not to say things that he doesn't mean just 'cause he's mad. He kept saying "uh, i think so, i guess, i'm not sure..." He said he has a lot of things on his mind (was recently in the hospital for a brief stay, money issues, trying to graduate college..). He suggested taking a break, but after a bad experience, I don't really believe in breaks. So by the end of the conversation it was determined that we were basically broken up, and were just gonna be friends. He practically begged me to still be his friend, and said it would hurt really bad if I wasn't. I told him it would be hard for me for a while, and to understand if I wasn't gung-ho about being friends right now, 'cause I was still hurting.
Anyway, that was 5 days ago, and I haven't really had a chance to miss him. Why? Because he keeps getting in contact with me. The first day he asked how my day was and if I was doing okay, since I was upset the night before. Yesterday he sent me a text message as soon as he got off work, then called me later that night. He told me I didn't have to be a stranger, and that I could call him. Then he said something about "being hard" and when I asked him to repeat himself, he wouldn't tell me what he said, just said "nothing, nevermind." I've talked to him every day since the break-up except for one day.
Ok so...why? I don't want to ignore his calls and attempts at contact because I do care about him, of course, and I also completely respect him and don't think he has bad intentions. I would just like to know if maybe he regrets it now? We were really close before this; we talked several times a day, and had become close friends as well as bf/gf. I'm scared to bring it up, because I don't want to be the girl that hounds her ex to get back together if he's not ready or whatever. But I also don't want to act all cool and cold to him and make him think I'm over the whole situation. I like to think that if he wants to work it out, he'll make the move, but I know that's not always the case, especially if I discourage him by being distant. But I'm also scared of just being friends when I still want more.
I have no idea...what does he want from me?? Ha, sometimes I think he doesn't even know the answer to that question! oh and we were together for 6 months..i'm 20, he's 24.
Thanks for any and all advice...
