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broken hearted
| Thu, 05-19-2005 - 7:17pm |
where to start, I guess at the beginning. I met this guy and we became friends and thru time realized there was a connection. We have similar backgrounds, are the same age, are looking for the same things in life, etc. Unfortunatly we had our 1st date right before he got a new job that requires traveling. I felt so comfortable with him and shared things with him that I've never shared with anyone.
The next 3 months we kept in contact via phone. I'm not a phone person - I want to get on and off ASAP, with him - we would talk for 1- 3 hours at a time.
Finally he came home for 5days and we spent most of that time togther. He took me to do one of his favorite activities - I had never done it before so was uncertain of how it all worked. Then he took me to meet his Dad. Come Monday I had to go to work but saw him the last couple of nights before he had to take off again. When I left his place the last morning things seemed to be fine, then 2 days later he called to tell me that for a number of reasons, but boiling down to the fact that he wasnt excited about coming home to me that he only cared for me as a friend and wants to go back to being friends. What the #(#)@*%???
I'm trying to be friends with him, but the last convo was really stilted. He's going to be home this weekend but wont be seeing me.
Personally, I now realize that he talked about his ex a lot and think that he's not over her. She did a lot of mind games on him and didnt like what he likes and stopped him from doing what he enjoys. His favorite activity that he took me to she stopped him from going to, to me it was ok, I'd be willing to go on occasion but not every time he goes.
I'm so confused - I know I need to move on but having a hard time.
To make things worse I keep dreaming about him and us being together.
The next 3 months we kept in contact via phone. I'm not a phone person - I want to get on and off ASAP, with him - we would talk for 1- 3 hours at a time.
Finally he came home for 5days and we spent most of that time togther. He took me to do one of his favorite activities - I had never done it before so was uncertain of how it all worked. Then he took me to meet his Dad. Come Monday I had to go to work but saw him the last couple of nights before he had to take off again. When I left his place the last morning things seemed to be fine, then 2 days later he called to tell me that for a number of reasons, but boiling down to the fact that he wasnt excited about coming home to me that he only cared for me as a friend and wants to go back to being friends. What the #(#)@*%???
I'm trying to be friends with him, but the last convo was really stilted. He's going to be home this weekend but wont be seeing me.
Personally, I now realize that he talked about his ex a lot and think that he's not over her. She did a lot of mind games on him and didnt like what he likes and stopped him from doing what he enjoys. His favorite activity that he took me to she stopped him from going to, to me it was ok, I'd be willing to go on occasion but not every time he goes.
I'm so confused - I know I need to move on but having a hard time.
To make things worse I keep dreaming about him and us being together.

I'm dying of curiuosity, what is his favorite activity? (you dont' have to tell if you don't want to).
My two cents, stop talking to him. Don't be his friend until you have absolutely no romantic interest in him. It'll be the BEST way for you to move on and let go of the "hope" and the "dreams" will stop.
Hugs. At least he was honest. You have to be grateful for that.
~pineapple_girl