can 1 phone conversation turn him off??
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| Tue, 03-14-2006 - 1:25pm |
I am 39 and dating again after being married for 10 years. A few months ago, I met a guy and went out with him a few times.....I had met him in a bar and he was very good looking, was age 29 and I liked his personality (he told me he thought I was in my early 30s). I had sex with him early on because I made the mistake of thinking that that would keep him with me and I had hoped that we would begin to date. He did tell me, however, after our second date, that he wasn't looking for anything serious and that he had been "hurt" before (I do have doubts how true that is). The third date went well. We had talked and had a good time and hung out at my place. He called me three days after the date and he mentioned that he was getting tired of spending so much money. He said that he didn't think he would be going out as much to clubs with his friends...which I took as a hint that he was going to be spending more time alone with me on the weekends. We talked for about 10 minutes and then I had to go because I had guests and I thanked him for calling....and I never heard from him again. Suffice to say I will never again make the mistake of thinking that having sex is the way to hang on to a guy.
I am now left wondering what I said or did wrong....he must have liked me and thought the 3rd date went well because he called me a few days later. Did I say something so awful during our phone conversation that he decided that he didn't like me afterall? But if that is the case, how could he enjoy our date, call me a few days later and then let a 10 minute conversation make him decide to never see me again? It has now been 9 weeks and he never called back. Is it a good idea to be very careful what you say to a guy over the phone?

From what you posted it does not seem you said anything wrong. He may have just chosen that financially he is unable to date. Some guys like to pay and go out when dating and if they can not see any point in dating. Don’t blame you because he stopped. Take the lessons you learned and grow from them and knock the dust off your boots as far as he is concerned and keep on stepping.
It's a learning experience definately and dating is not for the weak that's for sure.