Can FWB turn to relationship?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Can FWB turn to relationship?
Sat, 03-21-2009 - 10:49am

Opinions Please,

Has anyone here had a FWB, turn to a relationship?

Thanks for your responses.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2006
Sat, 03-21-2009 - 6:11pm


Welcome to the board! I have personally never had a FWB situation turn into an actual relationship. If they do it is more the exception then the rule. More often then not women agree to this kind of situation and turn out developing feelings for the man involved while he considers it just sex.

IMO I think it is best to avoid a FWB situation because someone almost always gets hurt.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Sat, 03-21-2009 - 6:59pm
The only limits there are to relationships are the limits that the two people themselves IMPOSE upon the relationship.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Sun, 03-22-2009 - 7:54pm

Thank-you for your response, I want more I am not sure if he does as well. His friends like me and I have met his family, I believe they like me as well.

If I call him he does respond to me, I really think he cares for me from afar.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-09-2006
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 12:16pm
I suppose it is possible.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2009
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 5:59pm
Though I do know someone whose FWB turned into an engagement, through constant pestering, which will probably result in an unsuccessful marriage.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2006
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 2:53pm
Yes, it can, if both people want it to turn into more, but does it happen much? Not really, because usually what happens is that one of them wants more while the other wants to continue with things as they are, which usually results in a breakup. Even so, if you want more then I think it's best to own up to that and let him know, rather than pretending and ending up unhappy with him. Just my two cents...


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2004
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 11:49pm

I'm sorry, but if he wanted more, he'd be pursuing more.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-23-2009
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 1:57am

Yes, it's possible because it happened to me.

But I will agree with others that 90% of the time it just doesnt happen.

For me, timing played a huge role too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2007
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 7:37am
If you're surveying how many FWB's turned out into a relationship, according to a magazine its more likely about 1-2% of those who engaged into it turned into a relationship. Yes its possible. But situation wise, they have found out (relationship/dating experts) that 88% of those women who engage in FWB wanting more---a relationship. Like what one of your reply said that sex and love are two separate things for men and its a fact. Sex means intimacy, which might also means revealing your weakness or vulnerability to a man apart from the lust itself. When women have sex, you release the hormone oxytocin which makes us feel fuzzy or feel the bonding..while men takes time to develop that kind of feeling. This might be the reason why most women in FWB find themselves wanting more. Which eventually often lead to frustration when their FWB partner does not acknowledge the same feeling.. So think twice before you get into this situation.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2004
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 12:31am


My relationship with my current boyfriend started as a FWB arrangement.